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Registered: 10-28-2009
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Sun, 03-28-2010 - 8:15pm

Hi everyone, I'm new here and am going to apologize for my long post in advance but after this last weekend i feel like i need some support now more than ever.


My DH and I have been married for 2 years, he has a daughter who is 8. Her mother is nothing short of neglectful... arrests, DUIs, moving in with different BFs every other week. His daughter and i have a very good relationship shes more respectful of me than anyone else but i feel like im coming to the end of my rope. All the disruption in her life with her mother has made her a product of her environment and we feel like we can no longer combat this on weekends. We have tried endlessly to get her via the courts and every time the mother gets out of jail or moves back in with her "husband" they order her back. I don't know what to do anymore and its getting even worse because ive started to work weekends and i feel like any stability has been lost.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
In reply to: sorcet
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 8:11am
Welcome to the board! :)

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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: sorcet
Wed, 03-31-2010 - 2:25pm

Hi, I hate to say this to you but stay out of it. I've got the exact same toxic BM and these poor SD's that reside with me now and it was murder watching their mom put them thru hell, the 'social worker' caring mom in me stepped up and now my skids resent me and

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Registered: 12-31-2009
In reply to: sorcet
Thu, 04-01-2010 - 5:26pm

Maybe BM will fall off a cliff :-)


I'm only kidding... Welcome to the board! Be nice to your skids, love them as best you can, remember that you are a stepparent and that there is only so much you can do. I love my SD, but there are times when

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Registered: 07-19-2005
In reply to: sorcet
Sun, 04-04-2010 - 8:38pm
so, what's the part of the story why DH can't get the custody at least 50/50? Have you gotten a psych eval for the sitch?
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Registered: 10-28-2009
In reply to: sorcet
Mon, 04-12-2010 - 8:45am
we really have no idea... our lawyer is astounished. We both have good jobs are educated with no criminal records... hell neither of us have even picked up a drink in our lives. Alot of it has to do with laws in PA. After all this my husband and I have had problems having children of our own only to find out its his problem... and likely was always a problem. our MD told us less than a 1% chance he would have biological children with out IVF. I could kick him for not having a DNA test at some point in her life then again he was only 17.