New Here Intro (a little long)

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Registered: 07-24-2005
New Here Intro (a little long)
Mon, 02-08-2010 - 7:34pm

I'm not new to ivillage, just to this board. I got into my relationship 2 years ago and knew my BF had a seven year old daughter at the time. I swore to myself that I would never date a man with a child but I fell in love with him. Three weeks ago we got married and I officially became a stepmother. I feel somewhat strange saying this but I guess this is a place for honesty and support but I really despise being a stepmother.

This child comes to stay two days with us every 4-6 weeks and it is the longest two days of my life!! If I even try to talk to, cuddle with or hold hands with my husband, she is on top of us, pulling him away and making him ignore me.

She also gets away with MURDER! He said the word 'damn' one day in a restaurant. Really, 'damn', not even considered an actual curse word and she had the gall to slap him across the face!! A seven year old!!! If she were my daughter I would have paid the tab, thrown her in the car and sent her straight to bed. What did he do? Bought her ice cream!!! She also refuses to sleep in her bed at our house and he lets her sleep on the living room couch. Seriously? We have to close the house down at 9pm so she can go to sleep in the middle of our house??? Oh, on top of that, we are making her room (wich pretty much only has a bunkbed in it) the nursery and she went crazy!! We are going to give her the big, beautiful guest room but no, she is crazy mad that we are taking down the bunkbed that she won't even sleep in!! I am at the end of my rope. I've had it!! I hate when she visits!!

Well on the up side... I am 4 months pregnant and can't wait for us to have our own child. She is also visiting this coming weekend and I have made an appointment for a massage, facial and mani/pedi so I don't have to be around her most of Saturday. Saturday night I'm putting my foot down and not letting her sleep on the couch. I'll keep watching TV in there till 4am if I have to.

So I have voiced all of these complaints to my hunband and he knows she is spoiled and disrespectful but does not want to cause any strife since he only sees her like 24 days a year. I am just at my wits end and don't know what will happen when the baby gets here, she is going to be crazy jealous and I'm afraid things are going to get a lot worse.

Anyway, just looking for some advice from others. Thanks for listening :)


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Registered: 12-12-2007
Tue, 02-09-2010 - 8:56pm

Congradulations on your marriage and your baby coming soon!!!

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Wed, 02-10-2010 - 11:31am
Welcome to the board, Katie! You were a beautiful bride. :) Congratulations on your pregnancy!


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Registered: 11-08-2008
Thu, 02-11-2010 - 1:45pm

Well hello!