Not feeling the love for your stepkids?
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|Mon, 11-26-2012 - 3:38pm|
This is a topic that has come up frequently on this board, and thought that the following article from the Huffington Post would hit home for some of you - what to do when you don't love your stepkids:
The reality is that second marriages with children have a 65-70% divorce rate. My clinical practice has taught me that much of this failure derives from the unrealistic expectations so many couples bring to stepfamily life.
Many stepmoms feel "thrown under the bus" when it comes to their partner's children and that the kids are prioritized over them. Their stepchildren treat them with disrespect and their partner's continual refusal to correct their children or teach basic good manners does not bode well for the marriage.
You can read the full article at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mary-t-kelly-ma/whats-love-got-to-do-with_2_b_2156663.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents
She goes on to say that most dads have unrealistic expectations when it comes to how they expect their wife to handle the blended family, and that their own guilt at failing their kids with their first marriage is a factor behind the feelings.
Do you think that stepmoms should be honor bound to love their stepkids? How do you handle it when your husband tries to hold you up to impossible standards?