Petty BM vent

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Petty BM vent
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Wed, 02-24-2010 - 2:26pm

Lately w have been seeing a lot less of the kid. BM asked us our thoughts on a new cheer venue, and when we said that it would really cut into our time she said-u don't understand kids and the kids deserves this opportunity- blah blah blah ...BM has 3 other girls- 2 of which r in cheer also

She knows that DD mentioned switching house for nxt school yr and I think she is trying to weaken the bond between BD and DD. We went from almost every weekend to the old cheer being 12-3 sat. We dealt & worked around it_ the kid likes cheer.

Now it is almost every sat and sun night so we barely have her for 24 hours, only 2-3 times a month!

Well, it is the kids bday party at our house this weekend, but her bday is not for 2 wks. We r not having her nxt weekend, on her actual bday weekend. So, BM gave her a laptop yesterday! 3 days before our party! BM actually has the kid on her bday and can't wait for her actual bday!

The kid is failing english for the yr and the rest of her grades average around 65! Plus, we r seeing her 3 times a month and BM wants my DH and I to be the ones to ground her!

I feel so bad for the kid. She is about to ruin her chances for a good college...BM actually said that she does not want to ground DD because she is doing good socially and BM does not wanna ruin all of BM's hard wrk getting her there! What a line of bull!!

I am only a little bitter this week...lol
Jessa

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Registered: 12-12-2007
In reply to: jessabridge
Thu, 02-25-2010 - 2:36pm

Hi Jessa,


When I hear about stuff like this, I'm greatful that the BM in my situation is only allowed supervised visitation.

KRISTIE
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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: jessabridge
Thu, 02-25-2010 - 3:25pm

"Does DH have the time spelled out in the CO?  If not, is it time to go to court and get this settled?  "

We don't have a CO. Not since she was 3. Up until halfway last yr, we all got along great. It was good for her. BM and I were friends, in my mind. Not besties, but friendly. DH won't go to court. He just wants to find a way to see her more. She is 15 soon, and we r asking for the switch in April.

"Maybe you guys could do one week on one week off?  This might give SD some more structure and more time with the two of you!!!  And you can help with her grades better this way."

We live in seperate school districts, well actually seperate states. Lol. So that wouldn't work.

  "How can SD cheer if her grades are so bad?  Most schools have rules against this.  BF's DD17's school doesn't allow any D's at all!!!  and it's watched very closly. "

It is not thru school. She told me and BD that she didn't try out because she did not know anyone in cheer at the hs. But she told BM that she didn't want to get w the wrong crowd. How does she know it is the wrong crowd if she doesn't know anyone...!!! BM feel for it. Like today she stayed home sick....but oooooo she feels better now, at 2 when school is over. Right in time for a cousins bday party. BM is getting played. And the more she gets away w the more she is going to try. I'm so worried about her. :-(

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Registered: 12-12-2007
In reply to: jessabridge
Thu, 02-25-2010 - 5:56pm
It's amazing how fast the worry comes and how slowly it goes away!!!
KRISTIE
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Registered: 06-18-2009
In reply to: jessabridge
Mon, 03-01-2010 - 4:06am

**Like today she stayed home sick....but oooooo she feels better now, at 2 when school is over. Right in time for a cousins bday party. BM is getting played. And the more she gets away w the more she is going to try. I'm so worried about her. :-(


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