Sports and other *Extra's*

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Registered: 08-25-2004
Sports and other *Extra's*
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Mon, 09-09-2013 - 5:46pm

How do you handle these expenses for your SK's in your house? 

Recently BM asked us to put out 50% of a dance class my SD was interested in signing up for.  For some reason, my SD was told she had to sign up for two classes in order to be accepted into an acro progam.  It may not seem like a big deal, and we do contribute just not that amount given the income difference, but the total cost would have been close to the $1000 mark once you added in costumes and taxes and in all honesty something we can't afford.  I get that BM felt it was alot of money for her to pay (minus our %) and it really is, but why then didn't/can't she look into a different dance school?  SD said it was because her little sister was taking ballet at the same place and BM didn't want to have to drive around, but if it saved money and SD could join up to just acro...why not!?  In our case, we had to let it go.  We don't have the funds to pay $500 towards another *extra* right now.  I also felt like if she would just shop around a bit, she'd find somewhere that allowed SD to take just acro, our dance company allows it and I'm sure others do as well!

So how do you decide what child is able to do what?  Do your own kids get a bit more $$ towards their *extras* given that your spouse also pays child support too?

 

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Registered: 07-07-2011
Thu, 09-19-2013 - 4:39pm

I'll generally pay for the registration fee and their dad will go out and buy them any equipment they might need.  We aren't talking about that much money though.  I don't blame you a bit for not wanting to contribute, that is a lot of money for a sport.  In that case, I think that both parents need to agree to it before you commit to letting the child participate.  If not, then the parent who wants them to do it should pay for it.  It's not like you are being petty, it's just not in your budget at this time.