Summer Visitation

Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Summer Visitation
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Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:38am

Its getting to be time to plan for summers, for those of you that have a long distance visitation and have the child part or all of the summer, how do you plan, what do you do, etc.  Do you have a court order for certain times, do you work with the other parent based on activities/sports/schedules, etc.?

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Community Leader
Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 3:33pm

We have a long distance visitation, we get DSS for half of christmas and half of each summer.  We alternate first half of summer and second half of summer.  DSS starts high school next fall.  We are scheduled to have him the second half of summer this year.  We got an email this morning from his mom stating that he had a football camp the first full week after school let's out, so he doesn't want to be picked up earlier than June 21st and that he will have football practice before school starts and wants to be back to his mom's house no later than Aug. 10th, therefore, we have him 38 days, tell her what 38 days we want him within the 51 day range that is "open".  Two summers ago he missed all of the before school practices for football and had to sit out the first month of games after school started and he was mad at us, but neither he or his mother communicated to us that he would have practices before school started up again so he spent the last 3 weeks of his visit sulking and complaining about how it wasn't fair that he wasn't at practice and would have to miss playing half the season.  Had they told us it, we would have been happy to make accommodations.  I am glad she is letting us know it with plenty of advanced notice this year so the same thing does not occur. 

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 2:59pm

We don't have long distance visitation, but will work together when it comes to getting their schedules handled. I think that both parents need to have some flexibility if it's possible, it only benefits the kids in the end.