What has been the biggest challenge in your marriage?
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|Mon, 10-07-2013 - 4:16pm|
Time has an article on how second marriages can be harder than first ones, because you are both bringing baggage into it:
The knottiest of remarriage issues is often that of discipline, and here a ton of research provides a clear guideline. The stepparent’s role should be similar to that of a nanny, an aunt or a baby-sitter who is familiar with the rules of the house (such as, no TV before homework is finished.) She or he monitors and reports on the child’s behavior, but ONLY the biological parent should do any kind of punishment (and is also allowed to let rules slide.) And yet, far too often, a step-parent will think they should be the enforcer if they are to get real respect from their step-children.
The problems of remarriage are a national issue that have been hiding under the radar for far too long. It is only by bringing the unique challenges out into the open that we can possibly bring the dissolution rate of these marriages down.
Read more: http://ideas.time.com/2013/10/04/why-second-marriages-are-more-perilous/#ixzz2h4KfdRA0
Has discipline been a challenge in your relationship? What else has been a sticky point?