World is spinning out of control

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Registered: 07-26-2004
World is spinning out of control
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Thu, 03-04-2010 - 12:43pm

Hi everyone, I used to post here many years ago back when BM was giving us he!!, but then I disappeared because things seemed to be getting better. Now I need to come back for a different reason: SS.


A little backstory - DH and I have been together since 1998, married since 2001. He has a son (now 15)

 

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 1:50pm

Will CPS help in any way? What about therapy? Or even a psych hospital evaluation (like a 3-day stay)?

And something that I've even considered for my DS when he's been really defiant and verbally abusive...boarding schools for troubled teens. I know that there are some out there that offer financial aid (for tuition and board).

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Registered: 03-13-2007
Thu, 03-04-2010 - 7:35pm

Bet you're wishing he hadn't put up such a fight for full custody NOW. This is so sad...

Anyway, that charming and manipulative personality? That's what a Sociopath IS. If the therapist he's seeing isn't doing the job, then it's time to find a new one. Not every counselor/therapist is a good fit for every person. Some 'fits' are bad bad bad...and this sounds like one of the bad ones since your SS is getting worse instead of better. If I were you, I'd be going from one Dr to another (bringing your SSs case file, NOT your SS) until I found one that would listen to me and then work with the SS to make the appropriate diagnosis and begin the correct treatment plan for him.

You also might want to consider in patient treatment for him. I could almost guarantee that his behavior is going to get worse with each passing year barring some INTENSE therapy.

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Registered: 07-26-2004
Sat, 03-06-2010 - 5:19pm

We had an adults only meeting with SS's current therapist on Thursday, and while he never came out and said the word "sociopath", he did say that he has observed the "intense pleasure that SS takes in fooling people into thinking he's 'with them,' or their friend." I know that legally, a minor cannot be diagnosed with sociopathy, but this statement makes me think that the therapist is seeing more than I thought he had, based on our last family meeting with him.


And to clarify, SS got worse while under the care of his previous therapist, which is one reason why we sought