au pair? nanny?

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Registered: 12-20-2010
au pair? nanny?
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Fri, 01-14-2011 - 6:00pm

hello ladies, i used to belong to this board ages ago but life got in the way. quick update, 5 children in the middle of a divorce and going back to finish my RN degree then start on my masters to be a nurse practitioner-midwife...

so the thing is i can juggle kids and school/work, i did it before with a drunk lazy husband in the way, i can certainly do it with him out of my way. but when i start working as a midwife (about 4yrs down the road) the job will require some flexibility. calls in the middle of the night or day to deliver a baby, emergencies, etc. i cannot very well leave the kids home alone in the middle of the night and i have zero interest in getting married until they are grown so there won't be a stepfather here to be with them either.

i was considering hiring an au pair or a live in nanny for that time period years down the road, but realized that might be something i want to look into now. most of my classes will be online but some will be nights in town about 15 min away, plus i'll be working full time to boot in a hospital starting in february and don't look forward to having the kids out of the house and to daycare/bus stops as early as 7am. i'd rather they be here with a nanny/au pair who could send them off to bus and stay home with the littlest one. same goes for summer, don't want to send my big kids to daycare. all around a nanny or au pair would be best.

so i'm wondering if any of you use these types of services and if so if you have

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Registered: 09-27-2002
Sat, 01-15-2011 - 3:13pm
Hi Tricia!

I am sorry about your divorce but it sounds like it was a good thing for you. I think it is really cool that you are going back to school to be a RN/MW. Both are very rewarding careers.

Personally, I'd probably go for a foreign au pair. I've really liked all the ones I've encountered and I think it is good for kids to learn about other cultures.

Good luck with your decision and KUP!

Hugs,

Martie, wife to one fabulous man and mom to 8 amazing children
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Registered: 07-03-2006
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 9:46am

I don't have any advice on the au pair or nanny.

 


Julie-
Mom to Michael (11), Jessica (11), Emily (10), Sarah (6), and Matthew (4) and Aunt to Laura (10)

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Tue, 01-18-2011 - 12:33pm
I remember you too! I would probably go with a foreign au pair too because they seem more responsible and affordable.

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Registered: 12-20-2010
Wed, 01-19-2011 - 8:25pm

thanks ladies! wasn't sure if anyone here would remember me or not...

the divorce was sadly expected and needed. i tried to stick it out until the children were raised, but that just wasn't helping anyone at all. the kids are adjusting well and i have been just reveling in the discoveries i am making now... when a person lives in stress and fear for so long, it is such a shock to realize that i am feeling relaxed and happy- and to realize how long it has been since i felt that way!

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Registered: 02-24-2001
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 6:26pm

Au Pairs are not allowed to work more than 40 hrs a week. At least that used to be the rule. So if you think you may need more than 40, an Au Pair won't work.

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Registered: 02-24-2001
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 6:29pm

As a live in nanny, 20 years ago, I expected $250 a week with extra pay for extra hours. I usually earned closer to $350 a week. That also gave me use of the car and full room and board. I doubt you would pay less now, but you are in Nebraska where the cost of living is less. I mean, you probably won't have to pay $600 a week, but I would guess maybe $400 a week? Especially if the schedule is going to be a bit unpredictable.

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Registered: 02-24-2001
Mon, 02-21-2011 - 6:32pm

I am sorry..about the wages thing, I would ask around and find anyone who has a nanny and how much they get paid. I am living in an area now that cost way more than where I grew up (not too far from you) so my estimates on cost might be way off. But I do not that being a live in would not result in a lower wage because in reality, it is inconvenient for the nanny too to not be able to go home from work, to always be there. Live in nannies usually earn the same dollar wise as live out nannies.