Discipline/order in house advice!

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Discipline/order in house advice!
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Tue, 07-06-2010 - 7:02pm

Figure all you mama's with lots of kids can help me. Cuz I only have 4 and yet I'm at a loss this summer! Seems I'm constantly in battle with my kids (and they are winning!). I need this to change and change now!!!


I feel like it's so hard for me to juggle it with them all, feel like I'm discipline while 2 others screaming, fighting, eating, on phone, trying to clean, nurse baby. Seems everything is slipping thru the cracks and by the end of the day I have nothing to show for it but some grey hair and a headache!


I've tried time outs, charts, yelling. I need help. This weekend we went away and OMG it's just insane. One kid here, one there, one crying, fighting, not listening. It's embarassing to go out in public. They seem to think what we tell them is "optional".


I'm sure there is more I can share but figure that's a start. TIA for your help!!!

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:21pm

I think some of that behaviour is normal but if you think it is a constant problem then I would start working on it.

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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:32pm

You just described my day. I spent much of my day coming down on people and if I were not close to ovulating, DH would be in trouble too as I am not too happy about some things with him too. Maybe after I ovulate and don't need to be nice for a couple weeks I will get mad at him too.

Good luck! Wish I had better advice.

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 9:51pm

Thanks. I do like the small trip idea. We have a park on the other side of the pond. Too bad 90% of the time they whine they are tired. It's literally a 10 min walk. But they have enough energy to run ALL DAY LONG in our house. LOL.


Baby steps I guess is what I need. :)

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Registered: 05-14-2003
Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:35pm
I also find that positive reinforcement goes a long way.

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Registered: 05-10-2010
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 12:10pm

I don't know what your day to day routine is like but for us behaviours increase as structure and routine decrease or if Mom is busy and the kids are left more to entertain themselves (I don't constantly entertain).

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Fri, 07-09-2010 - 12:05am

When our kids were younger, what really worked for when we were out was making our expectations for behavior clear, clear consequences for disobeying, and following through with them (the hardest part!). We would take a kid out of a restaurant if they were misbehaving (meal over for him or her!), leave the park/library/friends house etc. Also, I would remind them of expectations before going in (in a restaurant we use quiet voices, are polite to waiters, use table manners, stay seated etc.) Sometimes I felt like a broken record, but it did sink in for them that way. They learned that if they wanted the privileges of the fun stuff they had to be well behaved. Not that they were always perfect by any means, but I do think it makes a difference.

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Registered: 09-18-2004
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 8:08am

Thanks. That's good to know. That is exactly what we do. We walked out of breakfast the other day because Sean wouldn't listen. I've left stores, houses, etc if need be. Hopefully being a "record" will drill it in their heads and all of a sudden click! I think I have a hard time expecting miracles from the little ones cuz of Riley behaving 99% of the time.KWIM?


Thanks again.

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