First family function while BFing

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Registered: 09-14-2010
First family function while BFing
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Mon, 04-11-2011 - 9:52pm

Ok, so not the first family function, but the furst one with my husbands side (Almost the whole side!) who are ABSOLUTELY not breastfeeding people. They don't like me because of the way I raise my 8 month old, never really did before that either. I am very laid back, they are very image conscious. To give you an example, my mother in law told her husband when she was pregnant with my husband that she wuoldn't nurse the baby because "my boobs are small enough already, why would I want the mto shrink more?" You can see why I'd be nervous arund them. Also, my son should have staretd solids at 2 weeks old like hus father (no joke, cereal to sleep through the night at 3 weeks or so!). So with this big Easter dinner comnig up at DH's aunt's house with aunts,uncles even great grandparents of DH in attendance, how do I nurse my son without offending anyone, or being so uncomfortable I can't even let milk down?! And how do I keep people from putting food in his mouth that he can't eat? He has no teeth yet! I need advice desperately!!! Thanks so much ladies for the BTDT wisdom!

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Wed, 04-13-2011 - 10:01am

For me when it comes to family, I pick my battles.

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Wed, 04-13-2011 - 12:05pm
Delurking to say, I totally agree with the other poster! Definately pick your battles. My in-laws didnt believe in nursing either, and when I had my first, I was always very matter-of-fact about it. My dh's aunt actually believed i was spoiling my newborn by nursing on demand. It wasnt worth making an issue out of it and attempting to educate during the few family functions we had together.
If you can, wear your son most of the time. It'll help keep him close by so that people don't slip him food you're not comfortable with. Even with nursed babies, a lot of them start solids earlier than 8 months, so they may just assume that your son has too. Just find yourself a private room and lock yourself in there to feed him. Make sure your DH is on the same page so he can keep people from bothering you.
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Registered: 09-27-2002
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 5:50pm
I've had similar issues, not as bad as your though. I just developed a tougher skin, fed my babies, and watched them closely to be sure people weren't feeding them anything I didn't want them to eat. Tell them you have food allergies in your family and the ped says to wait on food. Bottom line: your baby, your rules. :)
Hugs,

Martie, wife to one fabulous man and mom to 8 amazing children
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Registered: 09-14-2010
Sun, 04-17-2011 - 6:07pm

Thanks for all the help ladies! I appreciate it. I guess you're right, keep him with me or my husband, grin through the judgementalness, and tough it out. GRRRR! I vow here and now to be a FABULOUS mother-in-law! LOL Anyway, thanks for the advice and I wish everyone a wonderful Easter and Blessings to all!

Easter Hugs!

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Registered: 09-27-2002
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 11:10am
I've made the same promise to myself, mostly b/c I have a fabulous MIL and I want to be like her.

But also b/c I've seen how hurtful even some judgmental comments can be. it is just not worth shaking up your relationship with your DIL/SIL to say something that is really their decision. So I've promised to zip my lip when my kids are grown with spouses. If they end up being 2 working parent families, with a nanny, an only child, etc. I will be silent on it all. To each our own, right?

Martie, wife to one fabulous man and mom to 8 amazing children