4 year old only child..need advice

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4 year old only child..need advice
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Sat, 11-13-2010 - 12:58pm

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Sat, 11-13-2010 - 1:46pm

Never had guilt, but then I'm a happy only myself.

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Sat, 11-13-2010 - 9:43pm

My daughter is 14 and she is an only.She has always been very outgoing and she was never very clingy,she is just wired that way.I never really felt guilty about having an only since my daughter has plenty of friends.Having another child will not make your ds more outgoing,he is probably just wired that way.Plus he will not cling to you forever.They grow up so quickly and you will miss these days big time.I did kind of feel guilty that Gabby was never very clingy.However when she went on vacation with a friend this year she texted me many many txt each day and she called me daily.Even though shetold me she did not miss us.

 

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 5:35am

I think if your son is shy and introverted, that's just his personality.

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 12:59pm

Hi and welcome! Your son sounds a little like my son, especially when he was younger. My son was extremely introverted. So introverted that when people (even other kids) would talk to him, he would burst into tears or hide behind me. Getting together with other kids/parents was tough because he wouldn't play with the other kids and would stay with me the whole time. Eventually, I gave up trying to have "mama time" with the other mothers and realized that

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 4:52pm

Hi and welcome! My DD just turned 5 in Sept.

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Mon, 11-15-2010 - 6:35pm
mrskellymom wrote:

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Tue, 11-16-2010 - 5:39pm

Hi, and welcome to the board.

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Fri, 11-26-2010 - 2:44pm

Thank you to you all!! I really do appreciate all your words and thoughts.

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 6:24pm

Hi, mrskellymom!

I sympathize with you completely. I have a 7-year son, who is an only child, and he has little ability to play on his own as well. He needs constant TV, video game, person attention. He has no ability to entertain himself otherwise, or at least chooses not to. Your child is introverted, whereas my son is very extroverted. However, he only wants to leave the house for movies, toy shopping or to go to a friend's house (which doesn't happen very often as we are usually the hosts). I've never seen any other child cry about being "made" to go out and do something fun. It's very taxing at times. I too have felt guilty about his not having a sibling to play with, or at least argue with.