Are you an OC Mom and a SAHM?

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Registered: 05-30-2008
Are you an OC Mom and a SAHM?
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Tue, 07-28-2009 - 4:39pm

(first I apologize for not taking off my "hat" something is up with IV and it's keeping it even though I logged into my non-cl name)

Kian is going to be heading to kindergarten at the end of August. And I am having a dilemma that I thought some of you might be able to give me some insight.

I am hoping to be very active with Kian's school - volunteering. But at the same time I am having a problem feeling guilty staying home with no children to care for all day long. I also know that if I do work outside the home, I will probably have to work retail (which I hate!) and have to work weekends and nights.

I guess I would love to hear how you guys feel on this and if you have been through it how you dealt with it.

TIA!






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Registered: 03-20-2003
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 5:13pm

Yes! I have been a SAHM since Travis was born, except for the two years that I was WAHM working for iVillage. And since I have no kids at home during the school year, I guess that basically makes me a (desperate) housewife! ;-) I do feel weird about it sometimes, kind of guilty, or like I'm a slacker, basically. Working at home was a nice "in between" for a while. It didn't work out with iV, but I would do it again if I could find something worthwhile.

It is nice though because I'm able to do lots of stuff at the school, be here before and after school, I can pick him up/take him to school at different times for activities, etc. I don't want to work nights or weekends either, so I'm basically waiting for that perfect job... you know, 10-2, Monday through Friday. LOL!

I do enjoy being at home and I guess I just make the most of it. I try to stay on top of everything that goes into making a home run smoothly. I look at everything I do as my "job", and I do my best and take pride in it. HTH.

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Registered: 06-06-2002
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 5:51pm

I'm not a SAHM and never have been.

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Registered: 03-03-2005
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 10:49pm

If you can afford for you to stay home while he's in school and help at his school I say go for it! I pretty much became a SAHM when Paige went to school. I do a lot of volunteer work in our community, most of it dealing with Paige, but that's what I've been able to do. Thankfully (I guess) we do own our own businesses so if I do need to work on stuff she goes with me. :)

Nothing wrong with being a SAHM while your kid's in school!

Jodi

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Registered: 08-09-2003
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 10:28am
I thought you were working on starting a graphics business? If that's gone by the wayside since your move, etc., now might be the time to start it back up and really put some time into it. You can also look at elance.com for different kinds of freelance work that you can almost always do from home. That'd give you a little extra money, creative fulfillment, *and* meet your needs to be available for Kian.
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Registered: 11-29-2007
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 3:34pm
Alayna starts kindergarten in August also. I'm a SAHM but my situation is a little different. My husband is gone for a year so it would be hard for me to get a job. I found a gym I'm going to join and I want to volunteer some. If I could find a job that was from 9 till 2:30 I'd get a job. I refuse to work on the weekends. It wouldn't be worth it if I had to hire a babysitter either.








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Registered: 03-27-2005
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 4:36pm

Have you considered applying for a job at his school?

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Wed, 07-29-2009 - 4:58pm
Amy is 11 and will be starting 5th grade in a few weeks. Never once have I felt guilty in being a sahm.
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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 07-31-2009 - 3:38pm

Even though Ian isn't an OC, I can understand what you're saying.

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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 2:19am

Thanks Ladies for all your encouragement, insights and questions to help get my mind rolling on what I really want to do.

Amy, if you find out what that 10-2 job might be let me know ;) lol!

I know that Travis is very active in after school sports. And I am actually hoping to be a Mom Taxi - as crazy as that may sound!

I already have Kian signed up for TKD (twice a week) and Soccer (once a week) for the fall.

Being a SAHM I do keep busy with household things and I know that if I had a job outside the home I would be overwhelmed.





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Registered: 04-24-2003
Sat, 08-01-2009 - 2:30am
Moss, you have some great questions! In fact, they really helped me answer truly what I should do and why.... having a job just to have a job is just silly to say the least :P



I suppose you have to think do you need to work for financial reasons? Or more specifically does Kian need two working parents? If you had more money would it improve your, and your family's quality of life?



Honestly, anything I made would just be extra cash. Of course that would be nice. But then again if I did work outside the home and needed to pay for childcare I might not be bringing home much of anything at all.



Do you need to work for social reasons? Or can you get what you need socially by helping at school etc?



Probably not. I have some other SAHMs (who have kiddos Kian's age and younger) who I would be able to still hang out with as I do now. And getting to know moms through Kian's school would be a definite bonus.



Do you want to work?



Honestly, no... (here's where I feel guilty, like a slacker).



Will you have a job that is rewarding or tht you can progress from or will you always just feel you are doing it because you feel you should be working?



I'd be doing it just to be working. And honestly, the type of job I would be able to do get easily would be the opposite of rewarding to me :P



Will you be too tired to do things you like doing with Kian when you get home?



Probably!



How will you cope if he is sick?



I honestly don't have a clue. We have no family in the area and I wouldn't want to stick a sick kid with another SAHM who has healthy kiddos.








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