couldn't believe someone said this

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 12:27am
I took my DD to the dr. today.

Kath, mommy of one sweet little girl

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 4:59am
Ah, that sucks and how rude. I can't even remember specifics any more, but I'm pretty sure I've had at least one comment like that in the past. So many people are just so ignorant and unfortunately often don't think before they speak. I think these comments get easier to cope with as you feel more confident in your own situation / choices.

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Registered: 08-11-2007
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 9:04am
Yes.When Gabby was in three year old preschool,the teacher came out and talks with me in front of all the other parents about how Gabby cut in front of someone in line so she could get there 1st and another mother speaks up and says something to me about how her daughter use to be like that before she had a sister.I was so embarrassed at the time.However,that is why she was in preschool to learn to wait her turn and to learn she had to share.Most three year olds are like that siblings or no siblings.It isn't as if people with siblings share and only children don't.Most preschoolers want to be 1st,not just onlies.The same would go for your daughter,she was out of sorts because she wasn't feeling well,not because she is an only.However,what a STUPID statement for a pediatric nurse to make,tons of kids cry when they go to the drs,especially kids as young as your daughter.It isn't as if a 4 year old gets a sibling and suddenly they are the most caring non tantrum throwing kid in the world.Look at adult siblings who fight or refuse to help when their parents get sick or die,then they fight over things,so just saying having a sibling does not make you unselfish or not throw tantrms.My daughter is 14 now and she does not have tantrums any more when she goes to the dr,nor does she shove to teh front of the line.

 

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Sat, 07-24-2010 - 3:27pm
No way! I probably would have had to ask her what she meant but I'm testy like that-lol. I've seen a Mom with several screaming kids at the Dr before. Or at the store. How do you interpret that? Frankly, I'd call the office manager and complain. I'm sorry your DD is sick. Olivia had cough and now I've inherited it. Summer sicknesses are the worst.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:09pm
What a rude and STUPID thing for the nurse to say. I probably would have had to give a not-very-nice reply to that, but then I am not very tolerant of that type of thing, especially when I'm dealing with a sick child. I might even call back and complain about that, because that nurse should really know better than to basically insult you and your child. Hopefully it makes you feel better to realize how dumb and inaccurate that comment was, though. Seriously, the only kids that cry at the doctor's office (or anywhere else for that matter) are Onlies?? Yeah, I don't think so.

So sorry your little one is so sick! Hopefully she will be feeling better very soon. ((Hugs))

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Registered: 01-22-2008
Sat, 07-24-2010 - 10:51pm

I had some lady get up in my face about DS being an only and how I was going to RUIN him and he would be SPOILED and it was a horrible fate to force a child to have no siblings. Uhh yeah she had no idea WHY I had an only.

I told her I know plenty of people with spoiled children in multiple child families as well. That my son would be a happy well rounded person and NEVER be as rude as she was to a stranger!

She walked away in a huff ;) I'm not shy.




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Registered: 09-06-2009
Mon, 07-26-2010 - 5:09pm

An aide at Erin's preschool/daycare made a similar comment to me a few months ago.

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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 10:29am
LOL Jodi, I like your response. Stuff like this makes me wonder, what would these people say in this situation if the child had siblings? Would they say "Oh, sounds like youngest/oldest/middle child syndrome"? Would they say nothing at all??
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 11:21am
...I'd say try it (say the child is first/middle/last) and see what happens!
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Tue, 07-27-2010 - 12:18pm
A silly - and inconsiderate
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