Ex doesn't support punishment

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Registered: 12-24-1999
Ex doesn't support punishment
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Thu, 07-21-2011 - 11:04am

In a nutshell - My 13 year old son has been wanting a video game in the worst way.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 1:11pm
You might want to share this on Parents of Teens as well, but I'm not sure what people are going to say. From what I've read over the years, in divorced families, it's basically whatever the rules of the house are for the house the child is in at the time. You can inforce yours in your home, and he can do what he wants in his. Not necessarily best interest of the kids, but it seems to work out that way.

As far as video games go, when ds18 was in middle and HS, we'd give him time to play per day based on grades (you could do it based on diet) - say 15 minutes for an A, 10 for a B, etc., and it all adds up to the max time per day, updated weekly (or at your choice of time period). That way things don't get away from you and they have a stake in it. FWIW.

Good luck,
Sue
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Registered: 04-12-2001
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 11:01pm

Well you would hope that one parent would back up the other on the enforcement of rules, but I have to agree with Sue that he can choose not to do so when your son is with him.

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Mon, 07-25-2011 - 12:37pm

I think the important thing is that they wanted you to give the game to your son to play with while at his Dad's.

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