Frustrating behavior lately!

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Frustrating behavior lately!
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:14am

I'm curious if anyone has any insight into this.

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:22am

Ah, yes, the power struggles of a 4 year old - remember those well.

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:29am
I totally agree with Suzy. Set the rule and follow through. Olivia (5 in Oct) listens/behaves so much better for me than DH because I follow through and he doesn't. We've not had to do a timer but I'm getting ready to buy one.
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:57am
Thanks, Sue! We have used a few of the techniques you have mentioned... the key is being consistent, I know. 1-2-3 works really well for her and we do use that often (me more so than DH). I guess it's the "constant struggle" that is so darn frustrating!
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:58am
I have to say I think I'm really pretty good at following through, better than DH! As I mentioned in my reply to Sue, the constant battle just gets so frustrating. We do get many compliments from family, friends and out in public on how well-behaved she is... and she IS... but sometimes not so much at home...
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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 12:14am

Just wondering if it could be the "terrible threes" stage? I know for us, ds was a piece of cake until he turned 3 then about midway through his third year I couldn't help thinking, "Who is this kid?!?!" I thought I was so lucky that the terrible twos seemed to pass us by, but then the threes hit us with a vengeance. For ds, it was ALL about power and control. Everything was his way or the highway. And, as with your daughter, even if we did what he asked, often he would still have a meltdown! It was as if he understood he now had choices and could vocalize them, but didn't really know what he wanted or fully understand the consequences of his choices.

What worked for us was limiting choices to two or three at the most and just rolling through the tantrums that sometimes followed. We also tried hard to choose our battles. For example, ds went through a two month phase where all he wanted to wear was sweats or track pants, even to bed. Anything else felt "itchy." For us, it was not a battle worth fighting -

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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 7:30am

Thanks for your reply and your thoughts, Sharon!

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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 8:57am

oh Jodi!

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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 9:43am

LOL, Moss!

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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 10:15am

It's totally just the age, Jodi!

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Thu, 12-02-2010 - 10:16am

OMG.

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