Morning Routines

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Registered: 04-26-2005
Morning Routines
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Mon, 08-02-2010 - 3:34pm

Hi everybody!

Sarah from the May Miracles 2004 sent me here. She said you all were very helpful, so here I am :)

What is your routine for school mornings? Last year (kindergarten) was such a battle trying to get DD (5 years old at the time) out of bed and moving. I felt that by the time we got to school, we were both frazzled.

I recently spent a week with my SIL who has two young daughters, and I was amazed at how relatively easily the morning routine went along. I noticed the two of them encouraged (i.e. prodded) each other and worked together. That led me to wonder what school mornings looked like with other mothers with one child. My DH doesn't wake up as early as we do, and it is SO quiet in the house when we're getting ready. I am usually packing her lunch or getting ready myself, and the quietness is a little disconcerting, even for me. I've debated turning on cartoons for her, or playing music, etc., anything to get her stimulated and ready for school. I've also asked my DH to start waking up before we leave for school so that we don't have to be so quiet in the mornings. He is an HR Director and doesn't have to be in the office at a certain time. If he starting getting to bed earlier, he could easily wake up with us. So far, no luck!

School starts on the 9th, and I do not want a repeat of last year. I'd like to get this year started off on the right foot. Any suggestions?? Thanks!

 

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 5:22am

Mornings are just a rush for us.

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 8:56am

It's been a while since that's been an issue (ds will be 18 next month and is NOT a morning person!), but the usual - lunches made and clothes laid out the night before, breakfast at least planned the night before so it'll be quick in the morning (I AM a morning person!).

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 9:05am

I've got an MM too!

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 9:55am

My DD doesn't go to school but I work FT so she has to get ready for daycare.


So, DH stays up late as his own choice because he's allowed to go to work later or he has to work late and, therefore, sleep late? If he's sleeping in just cuz, the luxury of a quiet morning needs to end. Plus, there might be days when you need him to help out.

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 11:08am

Hi Maymommy! I'm glad Sarah sent you over, but tell her she needs to send herself over too...we haven't seen her for a long while! ;-)

My son is 11 and starting middle school this year, so he's a little more self-sufficient in the mornings. But we've had the same basic routine since he started school.

I set my alarm and he sets his as well. I try to get up 15-20 minutes before he does so I have time to have some coffee, etc. Dh leaves for work around 6:30 and I am usually up by 6:45. Travis sets his alarm for 7:00. I make sure he's actually out of bed by 7:15. Breakfast is something easy like cereal, frozen waffles, toast with peanut butter, bagel, etc. He showers the night before so in the morning he just needs to wash his face, brush his teeth, brush his hair, and put on deodorant. He has picked out his own outfits for years, and we don't usually set out clothes the night before unless we know we'll be especially rushed in the morning for some reason, or if he needs to wear something specific for some reason. He walks to the bus stop at 8:15 and gets on the bus around 8:20 (might be a few minutes different this year, we don't have the bus schedule yet). So he has about an hour from the time he's out of bed to when he needs to be going out the door. It seems like a lot, but he is not a fast mover so he needs some padding built into his morning schedule so that he doesn't have to rush, rush, rush. When he's too rushed in the morning he is a major grump! If things are going smoothly we might have the TV on, either to some morning news/weather, or something he wants to watch (frequently Animal Planet or the History channel instead of cartoons). A lot of times if he has some free time in the morning he will read instead. He normally buys lunch at school, but on days that he wants to pack a lunch we try to decide that the night before so I can get most of it ready then and just quickly finish it in the morning.

Our biggest challenge is getting everything in his backpack the night before so we don't have to mess with that in the morning. He's at an age where I refuse to do it all for him, and getting him to be responsible has been a big challenge. Last year we made a chart/checklist with the different things he needed to have signed, put in the backpack, etc. for every day of the week (library books on Thursday, band stuff on Friday, planner signed every day, homework, etc.) I would ask him/remind him ONCE each night to take care of his backpack, and that was it. I wish I could say it worked like a charm, but we had MANY frazzled mornings running around with him trying to take care of that in the last 5 minutes before he needed to catch the bus. More than a few times he actually missed the bus, a lot of time he had to full-out run to catch it, and he sometimes forgot things that he needed. This year it's more important that he not miss the bus, as the middle school is 30 minute round-trip drive from home, versus 10 minutes round-trip for the elementary school, so I'm really not going to be happy if I have to drive him! Wish us luck...you would think it would sink in that all he needs to do to avoid that is spend 10 minutes the night before!

Our other issue at this point is getting him to bed early enough the night before. He fights going to bed "early", and at this age some of his activities run later in the evenings too, which makes it hard. He needs his sleep, so we try to have him in bed by 9:30 on school nights (and sometimes I'll sneak it up to 9:00 or 9:15 if he needs it).

Good luck finding the routine that works best for you and your dd! I hope you'll come back and let us know how it's going, and please feel free to stick around and join us here anytime!

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Tue, 08-03-2010 - 12:36pm

I'm here!!!





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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 8:27am

My DD doesn't go to school either but she gets up very early for daycare so we do have a morning routine.

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Wed, 08-04-2010 - 11:19pm

Wow, thank you ladies for all the wonderful advice! I think I'm going to try a few different things this year:

*an alarm clock set about 5 minutes early. Last year we didn't use one, but she's mature enough this year to realize what it means

*music in the mornings. She loves it and it will give us an opportunity to talk to each other. That being said, neither of us are "morning people" so in the final analysis, it may be more like an opportunity to "grunt" at each other. But still.... :)

She has been picking out her own clothes the night before and that has worked well for us. I get up at 6:15 and get myself ready (shower, makeup, etc.), then wake her up at 6:45. She gets dressed, face washed and hair brushed. I make her breakfast and while she eats, I pack her lunch. After breakfast, she runs upstairs to brush her teeth. She's pretty good about getting everything into her backpack that needs to be there, as she knows I won't be returning home to pick up anything she left behind. Last school year we did not have a single tardy; however, our sanity suffered for it!

I'm so happy to have found a board with parents of only children. THANKS SARAH!! I have friends with one child and we agree that raising one, while not a bad thing at all, presents special challenges in all sorts of areas. I look forward to reading up on the board topics. Thanks again for making me feel so welcome!!

Dannah, Mom to Christine (5/7/04)
Wow, that looks so plain. Oh well :)