My 13 year old daughter's texts..yes texts.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-20-2012
My 13 year old daughter's texts..yes texts.
2
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 6:47am

I know, I know.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-18-2011
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 1:36pm
Ohhhhh big (((HUGS))) to you! I was just out "wandering" around iVillage and stumbled across this board. I only have a Kindergarten-aged boy though, so I'm afraid I don't have any BTDT advice. I once was a teen age girl though and I can tell you that some of us said some rotten things to our parents in the teen years when parents are SO lame and don't know anything and we're trying to be cool in front of our friends.

Did you talk with her about being respectful of you and your husband? I don't know if taking away the phone or text privileges would help as a consequence as it doesn't really teach much, except not to get caught. I guess you could always tell her how hurt you are and that you don't want to pay for her to be able to disrespect you to her friends.

Well, I hope you are able to talk it out with her.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 04-20-2012 - 6:14pm
I agree with Trish. I think this is just something girls do at this age. I remember thinking my mom was the biggest idiot to walk the planet. I was absolutely horrible to my mom from the ages of 12 to about 17. I don't know how she put up with me. I'm sure I'm going to get it back tenfold with DD.

It sounds like you have a good relationship with her. I would try to sit down with her, as Trish suggested, and let her know how her comments hurt (regardless of why she made them). I'd also let her know that being a good liar is nothing to brag about. It's going to wind up backfiring on her, and the boy she's telling these things to isn't going to think too highly of her.