Never said no

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Registered: 03-10-2012
Never said no
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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:42pm

I have a 4 year old son who is my only child. He is also the only grandchild on both sides. Since he was a baby he has been spoiled with material things, but also attention. He is so used to being the center of attention-and when he isn't, he gets extremely upset.

For the first three years of his life I was home with him all day and worked in the evenings. We put him in preschool last year 3 mornings a week for 3 hours each day to play with other kids and get used to being away from me. Although it was a difficult transition at first, he had a great year. This year he is at school 5 days a week for 3 hours and is having a more difficult time. The teachers say that he works best when he is one-on-one, unfortunately, this isn't how school works.

Anyway, he is used to getting little presents/treats, going to

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Registered: 07-30-1997
In reply to: alexa79
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 9:00am

Honestly you just have to hold your ground. I can remember 3 instances with ds that he definitely didn't like, but it worked out, both around that age time. Once we were in the car and told him if he was good while doing (whatever it is we were going to do), we'd go to McDonald's afterwards. He whined; we said that's it, we're going home, and that was that. Another time was difficulty in putting toys away in a timely manner - we put out a timer and said by the time the timer goes off, toys are put away or they go to your cousins. Only happened once.

And the cutest one to me was when we were playing this pure-luck Toy Story card game where I kept winning. There was no skill involved so it's not like I was outplaying him. He kept whining, "I wanna win!" So at one point I started whining the same way, but 'I wanna lose!" It got him giggling and honestly he hasn't been competitive since.

Good luck - really you have to hold your ground and not cave or he'll know you will.

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Registered: 09-20-2009
In reply to: alexa79
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 11:49am

Ouch, that is tough.

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Registered: 09-20-2009
In reply to: alexa79
Sun, 03-11-2012 - 11:51am
What about putting together a chore/reward chart for him? It sounds like he does like being rewarded, but he gets treated too often. Maybe if he has to earn so many stickers each week in order to be rewarded, that might help?