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|Thu, 09-02-2010 - 10:30am|
Thank goodness I have found this board. I am 27 and from Melbourne Australia and my husband and I are proud parents of our little miracle - 19 month old Xavier. It took us a long time to have him and many many different types of infertility treatments before we hit the jackpot with IVF. It is a very very complex story but for various reasons we are now unable to have any more children. We are a little sad at this, but it can't be helped and the odds were stacked against us and yet we were able to come out of this journey with our beautiful boy. So the way we see it, how could we be anything short of lucky.
What I am really finding difficult though is knowing how to cope with people's attitudes and inappropriate questions. People always ask "when are you having number two?" and it is hard to tactfully deal with the question especially when sometimes depending on my mood sometimes it makes me a little sad to have to explain myself. I am torn between having to lie and say "oh well, you never know, we'll see!! hehehe" which doesn't sit well with me as it doesnt allow me to fully come to a concrete acceptance of our situation. Or the other option is to tell the truth and say "oh well we can't have anymore". My problems with that are 1. why should I have to tell a complete stranger my personal issues, and 2. they often don't take the hint and carry on the conversation to either attempt to persuade you that "you never know your luck - maybe someday you'll have kids!!" (ah i assure you no i won't but thanks for making me feel bad) or to ask you for your life history on the matter.
I recently decided to take my son to playgroup. Two weeks in a