The Perfect Parent

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Mon, 11-29-2010 - 6:34pm

Is it just me, or is it stressful raising kids in today's environment? I feel so much pressure to get everything right, but feel like I often don't know the right answers because there is so much conflicting information out there. My pediatrician told me I just need to go with my instincts. Sorry, but my instincts seem pretty suckish. I don't like feeling like every little decision I make regarding my child, whether it's how much video games he plays, or how many Cheetos he eats, will ultimately determine my success as a parent, and the development of my child into a health adult.

I think my parents were primarily concerned about 2 things:

1- can she support herself as an adult and

2- can she do it without going to prison?

Why does our generation of parents feel the need to hold ourselves to such high standards?

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 6:08am

I was reading a novel about a boy growing up in the 50's and 60's (same time as me) It jumped out of the page that his parents had a life.

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 11:42am

Forgive me as I've been absent for several months... finally decided I'm going to try to jump back in here!

Moss, I believe you're correct in that nowadays so many parents live their lives completely around the lives of their child(ren).

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 12:34pm

Hi there, and welcome to the board!

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 12:46pm

>>It jumped out of the page that his parents had a life.

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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 2:21pm
I agree about the competetive parenting, Amy! Even at Erin's young age, she is constantly coming home and telling me what her "friends" got to do over the weekend, etc. And, I have also had conversations with other moms who have gone on and on about all the activities their kids are in and how they feel the kids "need" all that stuff to become well rounded and so forth. I think everyone, parents and kids alike, need to figure out what works for them and do it. Sometimes easier said than done, tho!
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Tue, 11-30-2010 - 4:41pm
Me too - and having gone through M@ being in HS, it can even get worse - the parents force the kids to take all the AP classes so they have great transcripts and so that hopefully the parents don't have to pay for 4 years of college - you can get me on a soap box on this one - and note, for those of you getting close to that age/decision time, check to see what colleges your kids want to get into - MANY are now NOT taking AP credit; they say ok, you got x on the test and now can take the next level class, but we want all your tuition so you have to take all 120 credits at our U. But parents still even get involved at the college level and hover, force the kids to attend elite schools even if that's not what they want...it's truly amazing.

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 7:24am
Sounds an interesting book. I know that once the TV is on here, creativity is stiffled! The 'on' button is so much easier to find than the 'off'' button. That's probably why we go out so much as at least we are doing something. We are probably the people referred to in your next post who are always doing this and that LOL. One of DD's friends did comment that we were alwas out doing things as a family. It's because we live in a city and there are so many opportunities and even before DD was born I went to a lots of classes in my free time.

At home Victoria won't do things on her own except watch TV and play DSi games. She's sadly not a great reader but from time to time can be persuaded to watch educational TV rather than Disney channel which we've only had for a few months. She's fine if I help her do something or get her started but I don't always have time. Recently we've been making bead jewellery; she's made some very professional looking earrings and bracelets for Christmas presents. (Not sure how I ended up talking about this as it's a bit off thread ....)
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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 7:28am

Love the siggy Amy.

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 10:59am

Thanks Moss, I would gladly take some snow!

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Wed, 12-01-2010 - 11:21am

It's snowing here,

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