spoiled?

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spoiled?
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Tue, 07-19-2011 - 11:07pm

I am quite sure we will not be having another child.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 10:20am
As an only myself, I guess to me it depends on what you mean by 'spoiled'. If you give in to his every whim (esp as he gets older) that'd be spoiling in my book. If you let him do things you don't feel are right, that would count. If you tell him not to do something and then let him do it anyway is another example. If he does something wrong and you blow it off, that's spoiled.

IMHO, basically stuff is stuff; some people are more into it than others - are they then 'spoiled'? I think that's just more what they like. I've got a SIL who has two kids and those two have WAY more stuff than ds18 (also an only) - are they then spoiled?

What counts to me - being a loving but firm parent meaning if you have rules and morals you want your child to learn and adhere to, stick to your guns. They'll respect you more for that than if you give in every time. If they have good manners, (eventually) make friends easily and choose them wisely, have good habits and morals, and don't take things for granted, you've done a great job.

JMHO!
Sue
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Registered: 06-24-2010
Wed, 07-20-2011 - 11:19am
I know what you mean about it being hard not to buy things. We got "lectured" a few times by MIL. :/

I don't think it's ever too early to teach a child about donating and sharing with others. In our house, if a new toy comes in then an old one needs to go out. I explained to DS that there are some kids who don't have toys, and they would love to be able to play with the toys he doesn't want anymore. He loves to help bag up his cast-offs now. Our preschool is always looking for donations as are many daycare centers and women's shelters.
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Registered: 06-06-2002
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 5:43am

Hi

I don't think you have to be an only child to have too many toys.

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Registered: 07-30-1997
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 9:01am
Moss gave me another thought - at 2, attention spans and memories aren't that set yet - you can put a number of toys away and rotate them daily/weekly/monthly (whatever) so it doesn't look as overwhelming AND they then appreciate the 'new' stuff once it's back out again.

Sue
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Registered: 04-12-2001
Thu, 07-21-2011 - 10:58pm

Well.

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 1:05am

Hi!

I think it's ridiculous to say that a 2 year old is going to be spoiled just because he is an only child.

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