1st time here-mom of a 8 yr old ds

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1st time here-mom of a 8 yr old ds
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Fri, 12-19-2008 - 11:15am

When my kids were little, if I had developmental questions I either knew the answers instinctively


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Tue, 12-23-2008 - 11:09am
Hi! I don't have any answers for you - my DD is only 8 months! But I did want to welcome you to the board and thank you for posting!
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Mon, 12-29-2008 - 12:52am

Hi Vicki. What a cute couple of kids you have.

From my experience with my 9 yo and with kids in his classes starting back in 2nd grade I will say that what you are describing is very common. I think it is a combination of looking for attention, using what has worked for you in the past to get additional attention and just an outlet to deal with all the pressures and stress of what is expected of them both at school and at home.

With my son what has helped is to talk about different ways to communicate and get what we want. You want the walls painted in your room, you don't cry; you talk to me about repainting. Crying isn't going to help you get what you want in that situation where as talking to me about why it would be a good idea to repaint just might. The same with food. Why are you crying over what is for dinner? What is more likely to get you something else for dinner? (Can you tell I've been there too?) What is crying most likely to get you in this situation? That is right, sent to your room without dinner. We've talked about how you want to make it "easy" for someone to do what you want/would like by being pleasant and understanding if they can't do it.

It is an ongoing process and some days/times are better than others.

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Sun, 01-04-2009 - 12:36am

I have 9 yr old girls and for me at least the crying is normal... they started at about 7-8ish and are starting to taper down a bit but the strangest things can set them off. What you think is nothing - is HUGE to them and the waterworks start. I think it is the fact that they are no longer little kids but not big kids either. Their hormones are starting to take off a bit getting ready for pueberty and crying is an emotional release they know how to do. talking it out is new to them and we need to help them thru it.


I think Dawn had good advice, talk when the crying starts and explain a better way to get his point across...


Good luck but hang in there with the rest of us it is going to be a bumpy ride into teendom LOL


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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 5:44pm

Hi Vicki,


It's great to run into you again, I remember you from the W&P board years back and I know I have seen you on some other boards here.

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Mon, 01-05-2009 - 7:04pm

Uff da...I've not been on the W&P board for years! You have a good memory lol.


I donated my freezer stash of EBM to another mom through


* Milk Share *


I donated my freezer stash of EBM to another mom through


* Milk Share *

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Tue, 01-06-2009 - 9:09am
I agree with the previous posts, but I also wanted to add that if you are concerned that there IS a problem, you can write down the behaviors you see and give the list to your doc. Sometimes when you see all the behaviors together in writing, it's easier to spot a problem (and/or to reassure you that there isn't a problem).