8 year old attitude

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Registered: 08-14-2008
8 year old attitude
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 4:08pm

My 8 year olds attitude seems to be getting worse no matter what me and my husband do.

He back talks, curses,and is extremly meen to his two younger brothers he hits and calls them names.

everything i do or say to him he tells me he hates me. i need some advise on what to do.

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Registered: 02-10-2008
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 6:55pm

Why is he so mad? Is there something going on? Has this behavior been aloud? Your son is 8 and capable of working things out. Have a family meeting when nothing is going and and talk with your son about what is going on. Let him know that you are recognizing that he is not happy about some of the things that are going on around him and that is ok BUT he may not use the words that he is using. He can be mad at you but he cannot yell at you. When he does say 'I hate you" turn to him calmly and say "You sound really angry" And give him space to talk. See what he says. When he begins to feel heard he will talk more and more and you can get to the bottom of what is going on. That being said there can also be consequences to his actions if he is being mean to the family he needs to take a break from the family. He needs to pick another room to be in until he can use calm words with the family. This will take time. There is a cycle that has been created and it will take time to break it.

I would love to hear how it all goes.

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Thu, 08-14-2008 - 7:00pm

Well, you didn't give a lot of detail in your message, but I can imagine (being a mother it isn't too difficult! :) )

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Registered: 06-29-2001
Fri, 08-15-2008 - 2:56pm
I'm sorry you're having a rough time with your son.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 3:06pm

Have you figured out what is bothering him? What has him so angry?

Have things improved? Stayed the same or gotten worse?