8 year old clinging all the time

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Registered: 05-26-2004
8 year old clinging all the time
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Sat, 01-31-2009 - 1:54pm

Hi
I'm new to this board and in need of some advice.

My 8 year old son (whom I love dearly) is constantly clinging to me or my husband. Ever since he had a bad dream he will not get undressed in his room, go in the basement by himself unless one of us is with him, won't go in his room with out big brother, I could go on and on. When does this stop???????? How do I get him to stop this behavior? It's been going on for about close to a year or so and it's getting on my nerves. I want him to be independent and do things like play with his games alone so I get a much needed break. He has no trouble going to school by himself (which I don't understand but its a blessing that he goes).

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Kelly

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 02-02-2009 - 2:46pm

Kelly, do you know what the dream was about?

Lindsay had bad dreams at the beginning of the school year and after I finally got her to talk about them we were able to show her that they couldn't come true because of this and that. I kept telling her that if she would share the dreams it would make them go away -- troubles shared are halved. She finally told me that she was dreaming that the house caught on fire and she went out the bedroom window but got caught in the back yard. We talked about what would happen in the event of a fire and then we went around the block and talked to our neighbors behind us. They told her that if there ever was a fire at our house they would look over the fence to make sure she wasn't back there. It took a few days after that for her to completely trust and fall asleep (and stay asleep) but it happened. It got easier for her and she realized that talking about the bad dreams made them lose their power to scare her.

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Registered: 01-07-2004
Mon, 02-02-2009 - 3:49pm
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