9 year old wetting pants

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Registered: 08-26-2008
9 year old wetting pants
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 10:47am

somehow my previous message didn't get posted.

I have a 9 year old boy who has on occasion wet his pants during the day.
After a trip to the doctor, he assured me that there is nothing physically wrong with him. He said some children when they are involved in play get so focused on what they're doing they forget to go until it's too late and then can't hold it.

The doctor also said this is not uncommon, and I should be more concerned if he wets during the night, because that signals a physical problem.

This is very frustrating for me because I don't want him to be made fun of by his friends.

Has anyone had this happen with their child?

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Registered: 08-31-2004
Wed, 08-27-2008 - 12:40pm
Does he ever get constipated?
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Wed, 08-27-2008 - 3:50pm

Hi Gelisa,

You did the right thing to bring this to your doctor's attention because sometimes there can be a medical cause, but if it's just very occasional, there's probably not a medical cause.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 08-29-2008 - 2:24pm
I agree with Mindy in that he is going to have to decide to go to the bathroom when he needs to, if he doesn't want to get teased, especially as he doesn't have a medical condition to explain why he's doing this. Yes, 9 yo can get engrossed in doing stuff and forget to go or end up having to run to the bathroom because they held it too long. But that is behavioral issues they need to decide to work on, you can't force them, or even remind them to go all the time, especially when they are at school.

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Registered: 08-26-2008
Sun, 08-31-2008 - 10:52pm


Yes, I have talked to another doctor, and it seems it is just his behavior that he has to modify.
unfortunately, he will have to learn by his own actions.

As heart breaking as that will be for me, I have to let him go through it and learn.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 09-01-2008 - 6:57pm
It is hard to watch them make mistakes. Unfortunately we can't be with them all the time and some times you/they need to learn through our mistakes. Remind me of this when I'm upset because Philip let his friend walk all over him again.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 09-02-2008 - 8:01am
My nephew had this problem.