Acceptable discipline

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Registered: 05-14-2006
Acceptable discipline
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Fri, 10-31-2008 - 1:41pm

A 8 year old boy decides to continually act like a young child/baby. From pushing other kids because he wants what they have to taking back to even pooping or peeing his pants because he doesnt want to stop what he is doing. Tried discipline of time out and giving up toys and such and nothing worked. So told child if he continued to act like a baby he would be treated as one. When Child wet pants again because he wanted to continue to play video game and said that was why he wet them he was told he would be treated like a baby for a day. He wore pull ups (still used the bathroom though) sat in a booster seat at the table and we helped feed him, bringing the spoon to his mouth for him to eat. We made him take a nap and go to bed early. We spoke really nice to him like you would a young child a little high pitchy like you kind of do little kids or babies, You know like, Isn't that soooo good! with a smile. And for the first time ever he said sorry without being told he should do such. He hate that form of discipline because he likes being a BIG BOY!


I don't find anything wrong with this as it isn't cruel and he was warned. He is however split between our home and his mothers home and now am being told that I should not do this. What is wrong with it if he is acting that way and knows what will happen? He tells us he likes his other house because when he lies and doesn't things bad he doesn't get in trouble and I don't parent like that. We are to teach our children right and wrong not let them get away with everything. I do know kids make mistakes and things "slide" at times because they are kids but certain actions NEED deiscipline. Please let me know what you think.

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Registered: 10-08-2004
Mon, 11-03-2008 - 9:07pm

Did the method you used work with him?


Different methods work for different kids....have you tried making him clean up his own pants when he does these things?


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Registered: 05-14-2006
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 8:25am
When he pooped because he was too laxy to get up and actually walk to the bathroom he did have to pick up and clean up his own underwear and pants and actually pick it up off the floor because he was wearing boxershorts underwear and shorts so when he stood up some got on the floor. And he acted like he didn't even care. And then did it again. We have tried a lot of different disclplines. Chores, restrictions, time outs and of course with each one having a very long converstation about what happened and why and why it isn't right and everything. And nothing was working. He was having attitude problems with us and his other parent and even starting fights with kids. When he was back with his other parent he even treatened another child in school saying he was going to kill them. I am not sure where he got that from but he said it a couple times.He has become very spoiled and, not putting anyone down just how it is, get most everything he wants at his other parents mainly because his grandparents tend to baby and not let my ex actually discipline and it is hurting our child. But I get off point, we have tried a lot of things and NOTHING seemed to work or have an impact and everytime he lied or acted out or acted like
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Registered: 10-08-2004
Tue, 11-04-2008 - 10:58am

You are right, what you did was not cruel, and if it worked then that is great.

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Registered: 02-01-2008
Sun, 11-16-2008 - 7:36pm

hi i'm just a lurker.

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