Antisocial Phase

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Antisocial Phase
Sun, 06-29-2008 - 4:13pm

DS, 8-1/2, is going through a phase ever since school ended where he does not want to play with friends. He has friends in the neighborhood who have literally been his best friends since birth, and he used to spend every single day after school with them. Now, he has no interest. He says nothing happened, no one is mad at anyone, he just doesn't feel like playing with them. I have asked if he wants to invite other friends from school over, and he doesn't. Kids have called to ask him to play, and he has said, "No, thanks."

He is keeping himself busy, playing with his army guys, hitting a tennis ball or having water balloon fights with his big brother, riding bikes with me, etc... He seems okay, not depressed. But it's puzzling to me. I wonder if this is normal? Have your kids gone through a stage like this?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 9:23am
We haven't experienced this yet. I have heard of this and have seen it in action with a couple of gf's kids. In their cases it is because the kids were enjoying not having to run around to various activities during the summer. They needed the down time and time away from their friends. Once school started back up, they were back to doing things with friends and heading off to various after school activities. Maybe this is the case with your son.

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Registered: 05-17-2001
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 1:59pm

You are describing my almost 9 year old son. He does not want to leave the house- he wants to play video games or card games. I guess they want some time to stay home.

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Registered: 01-06-2007
Mon, 06-30-2008 - 5:11pm
My daughter gets like that -- she's away so much during the week that on the weekends she'll beg just to stay home. She won't usually turn down a playdate because she doesn't get a lot of opportunities to play with friends outside school, but some weekends I could offer to take her to Disneyland and she'd say "no thanks."