brown skin...innapropriate?

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brown skin...innapropriate?
Sun, 10-26-2008 - 8:44pm

Please forgive me in advance for offending anyone.

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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 1:25am

To me, it's more inappropriate to pretend someone's skin color doesn't exist, because that makes it seem as if it's something to be ashamed of when it isn't. My late husband was Filipino and he wouldn't have been bothered by a child saying his skin was "brown" -- it was brown, or at least tan.

I do think it can be offensive to point out race when it has nothing to do with the topic at hand, e.g., saying "There's a black woman at work who ..." when you wouldn't mention the woman's race if she were white. But it sounds like all your daughter is doing is describing someone's appearance, and skin color is part of that, the same way hair color is.

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Registered: 02-17-2008
Mon, 10-27-2008 - 11:50am

I agree with the other poster.

My daughter has a whole host of friends who are of all races...and she uses that phrase all of the time.

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Mon, 10-27-2008 - 1:50pm
Based on what you posted, my thought is it isn't offensive and wouldn't be perceived that way. However, it could come close to that line if it is seen as your main way of identifying people. We live in a very diverse area. I rarely think to mention race or skin color because of that. It irritates me when people will insist on using race or ethnicity as their prime identifier of either themselves or others.

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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 12:49am
I do not find that offensive at all. My son is the only brown skinned kindergartner in his class and I've heard students compare their skin with his or note that he is brown skinned. He just says it sure is just like my mom and dad. It is natural for children to be verbal about their observations. The only time I've had an issue with a child for pointing out my child's differences was when a child told her parents,"that boy's hair is weird." right in front of my son, and the parents didn't respond. Which in my opinion would make the child feel it's okay to say my child's hair is weird and my son to feel bad about how he looks. So I said to my child and loud enough for the parents to hear " Your hair is not weird. This is how many African American boys hair looks. Your hair is just like your dad's and your brother's.
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Tue, 10-28-2008 - 6:17pm


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Thu, 11-06-2008 - 3:36pm
I see your concern, and kids are something else!
We are a black family. My son doesnt refer to himself as black, he looks at his skin and see's brown. I dont have a problem with that, and I think you shouldnt really thing much into it. They are calling it the way they see it.