building self esteem

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Registered: 01-09-2007
building self esteem
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Mon, 07-28-2008 - 1:50am
My son just turned 8 in July, he is an only child and my ex and I share custody. My son is a bit inmature for his age and still carries around a teddy bear. During school he keeps it in his backpack which is fine, but lately he has been carrying 3 bears instead of just the one. We just moved bedrooms and went thru all his stuffed animals and he found "purple bear" and "green bear" who he used to sleep with along with "red bear"when he was little..it feels like he is going backwards now with these bears, and I have been trying to ignore it. He has been getting picked on at summer camp because he is not a rough and tumble kind of boy. He would rather draw then play sports, would rather play on the computer than wrestle. Yes he has wore my clothes and shoes in the past, and recently started doing it again. I am wondering if this behavior is his way of dealing with being picked on? I love my son just the way he is and would not change a thing..I just need to know how to support him and to help build up his self esteem. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 12:09am
It does sound like he is reacting to being picked on. What was done at the camp when the kids picked on him? Its a form of bullying that should not be tolerated by the adults in charge. Do you know how he responded when the kids were picking on him? One thing I've learned is that if the kid being picked on gives a "Yeah, okay I don't play sports or wrestle what's the big deal?" it deflates the bullying. My son was getting teased because he has no problem talking with the girls in his class. A few of the boys were saying he had a girl friend and doing all that teasing about "oOo look Philip likes girls" He didn't know what to say and I suggested he just smile and say "jealous?" and it stopped that day.

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