Class Clown?

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Registered: 06-15-2007
Class Clown?
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Wed, 09-03-2008 - 4:18pm

My 8-year-old is, I fear, turning into a class clown. He is well-liked in school, very smart, gets good grades, and does not get in any trouble, (yet!), but I am starting to get concerned that he is trying too hard to make friends by being funny. Once toward the end of last school year, he told me, "Boy, sometimes it gets tiring trying to be funny all the time." Today, the second day of school, he told me how he had two boys in his class laughing so hard at lunch that milk came out their noses.... When I say he tries to be funny, he does this by being REALLY silly, just saying completely nonsensical things; it is hard to explain. The good thing is, he does not do this at the expense of others -- ie., he doesn't make fun of people in order to get a laugh. But it concerns me that he feels the need to carry on in this goofy way all the time. It is not who I think he REALLY is. I think he feels he is not the most athletic kid or the most popular kid, and he is by nature a little shy and introverted; but if he acts weird and funny, he is accepted... It does get very annoying and eventually I think kids are going to start thinking he's just plain weird, or he's going to go further & further to get a laugh and teachers are going to start noticing and being annoyed...

So I am at a loss now as far as, how much do I step in here? Do I just have to let him find his own way with this? Or do I need to somehow (I don't know how) put my foot down about this constant silliness. Just now sure how to guide him with this.

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In reply to: lilacgirl67
Wed, 09-03-2008 - 6:21pm

Hi Lilacgirl ... I think at this age, being funny/silly can get him friends, and if he was doing it to a degree that is was disruptive to the class, I am certain the teacher would let you know!

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Registered: 09-03-2008
In reply to: lilacgirl67
Thu, 09-04-2008 - 7:47am
maybe the class work is to easy for him and he is bored, can her be tested to maybe move up or get more challenginf work

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: lilacgirl67
Fri, 09-05-2008 - 2:21pm
My thoughts are along the same as Mindy's. Let him do his thing while telling him that he doesn't have to be funny all the time. If it does become a problem the teacher will talk to you about it.

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Registered: 06-19-2008
In reply to: lilacgirl67
Sun, 09-07-2008 - 12:00am

Lilacgirl67, I could have written your post. My nine year old is exactly that way. He gets very silly and says ridiculous things to make the other kids laugh. I do worry too that this could turn into something bad so I talk with him about being "too goofy" - especially in new situations. I also remind him that all good comedians "know their audiences" and the when to turn it off. I also try to develop his friendships with kids on a one on one basis where he feels the pressure to be silly less.

You could also try letting the teacher know if this is a problem in class that you are concerned with. She may be able to steer him into leadership positions that will get him attention for something other than clowning around.

If he still acts goofy a lot of the time then do what I do and remind yourself that most great comedians started in school! :P

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Registered: 05-04-2006
In reply to: lilacgirl67
Tue, 09-09-2008 - 1:21pm
Better him trying to make friends by being funny and silly than trying to make kids laugh by making fun of others. My 11yo DS is the same way and has been since K. In his yearbook last year almost everyone wrote how funny he was. Did it get him into trouble with his teachers? Sometimes. But most of them told me it was hard for them to punish him because he was so funny and likeable. I think he actually got away with more than he should have. My Nana use to say, "Better a charmer than a harmer".