controlling nine yr old daughter

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Registered: 03-27-2003
controlling nine yr old daughter
Thu, 03-27-2003 - 4:10pm
I am a sahm of three dds...13,9,and 7. The problem, which has been ongoing for quite a while(more then a year) is my 9yr old. She has to control every play situation....to the point where if she can't get the other kids to do as she says, she gets nasty and mouthy and sometimes even physically abusive. She decides who plays with whom, how long they play, what they play and will whisper to other children to exclude so and so on her word.

It's causing quite a problem in my townhouse complex....so much so that I dread the nice weather coming as the other moms will be constantly in my face about her.

I've tried talking to her, consequences have been laid out and followed, priveleges removed, you name it, it's been tried....any ideas as to why she is this way?

The more I think about it the more I realize she has been this way since day one....even trying to control me at times....help!

Carol