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|Wed, 09-10-2008 - 4:00pm|
I hope someone can shine some light on me. my DH and I are at a loss here.
We seems to be loosing our 8 year old son. School has only been in for a month now and I am already loosing it and so is his teacher.
Tylor is overall a good kid, the oldest of 3 children. Lately he has been not respecting me, he basically ignores anything I have to say unless i raise my voice, I am so tired of raising my voice. He will basically give me the same "okay" but not do as I ask (usually with school stuff)
At school and home he isn't applying himself the way we know he can. He writes sloppy as can be, doesn't try really hard and is constantly redoing papers to get a better grade. He won't follow the rules I have set for example, do your homework at home not while waiting for the bus, put everything away where it belongs...
Every day we all sit down to do homework (I have a 7 year old son also), I help when needed and correct it and they are instructed to put their homework in their homework folder and it goes into their backpacks...doesn't seem too much. Well isn't following this, his homework for some reason rarely ends up on the ground and lost for a few days and he has to turn it in late and is missing part of his recess because of it.
At school he isn't taking things seriously, just "getting through it" and not seeming to care that it is wrong. During a math assessment test he got a 12/30 correct, 5 of those he answered with 0000 and he was missing basic addition and subtraction. We have been told by his teacher that if he comes home with a check he can redo it for a better grade so we are ALWAYS redoing things. His teacher is just as frustrated as we are, I am in constant e-mail conversations with him in hopes that between us we can help him.
I have tried taking things away and it doesn't effect him, I have grounded him with little response to that. he was so excited about going hunting with his dad this year for the first time and when we told him he couldn't he didn't even react.
I ask him if anything is wrong and his answer is always NOTHING. I asked him if there is some way I can help him he says no, I asked him if there was anything I we could work towards special and he says no he has everything he wants (which I know is not true).
I praise him when he brings home good work so it is not all negative in our house.
Does anyone have any insite or can give me suggestions. I just signed him up for cub scouts so I am hoping this helps a bit and he will find an activity outside of school he likes (not a sports kid at all).
Thank you in advance.