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|Sat, 08-18-2012 - 4:53pm|
I have nearly 9 years worth of background, stories and questions. However, it would take me weeks to type them all out.
My son is a challenge. He's diagnosed with ADHD, but it's just the symptoms. He's really just himself. He's on medication to help with his symptoms but how well they work is quite variable.
Right now it's the summertime and we are struggling to get him to do anything. Reading doesn't happen (you need to pick your fights). Right now the fight I've picked it to get him to work on his math. He on a program called "Xtra math", setup through his school. I'm used to children mastering multiplication in 3rd grade, yet he is still struggling with subtraction and he's about to start 4th grade. Mostly he's figured out how to "game the system", so he follows patterns, doesn't think (or even look at the problem) and just makes quick guesses. It's frustrating because when he honestly tries, he does *very* well. However, he'd rather spend hours arguing with me or trying to avoid it. Even if I sit right next to him. His typical day is about 27% correct. If he tried for all *5 minutes*, I believe he could get 80%. He just doesn't see it.
A big question for both our kids, is how much should you push? We want them to enjoy their hobbies, but both my son and daughter show an interest in something and just as you get them all signed up and start working with them, they don't want to do it anymore. We don't want to be the type of parents who torture our kids to do something they don't want to for years on end, but if you don't work hard and practice at something, you'll never get good at it and feel mediocre all your life. We want them to show some passion and hard work for something they love. They'd rather play with toys or watch a video.