Help! My almost 9yr old wont eat Steak!

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Help! My almost 9yr old wont eat Steak!
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Tue, 06-30-2009 - 5:36pm

And its not because he doesnt like the taste of it.


I truly think my moron ex has never fed him beef/steak at his house because he is paranoid of colon cancer (a whole other issue).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-30-2009 - 11:15pm

Um, is it really that important for your child to eat steak?

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 3:43pm

It could be a texture issue.

I was also one of those kids forced to sit at the table well after the food was cold until my plate was clean. Liver was and still is a texture issue for me. I can eat it if its liverwurst but cook it any other way and I can't eat it. I can't stand the texture of bananas -- love the taste but that texture grosses me out.

Because of those experiences I became very reluctant to try new foods. I have my in laws to thank for changing that. We'd go out to restaurants in large family groups (family style serving) and my mil would tell me what all the dishes were. Both her and my fil would try to make sure that there was at least one dish that I would like but they also let me know that if there wasn't anything I liked that we would stop and get me something on the way home. When we went out to sushi, my fil would finish anything I didn't like, that way I didn't worry about wasting the food. It freed me to try new things. One thing at home they did that I try very hard to do with my kids is have a variety of foods on the table so there is something everyone likes. They are Chinese so dinner most nights is 3 or four dishes and a soup. My fil will make a chicken and vegetable dish, a pork or beef dish with different vegetables and then a vegetable dish and or a seafood one. It sounds like a lot but it really isn't. There are usually left overs of some of it so tomorrow night he will add one or two more dishes and reheat the left overs. The soup is generally a chicken base. With that variety there is always something at each meal that someone likes.

I am not as good of a cook as my fil is and I don't always cook Chinese dishes but what I do do is plan my menus out so that there is something that both kids will eat even if it isn't the same thing. Dh eats pretty much anything. Lindsay doesn't eat beef or pork so chicken in some form is at ever dinner. About a third of the time it is leftovers. We offer the other food but we don't make a big deal about whether she takes it or not. On top of this on Saturday it is "try a new food day". They try one new thing without a fuss that day. Its a tiny bite and there is desert afterwards. the only requirement is to truly try it. Lindsay approaches it like a scientists. She observes it, touches it, smells it, puts her tongue on it before putting it in her mouth. Half the time she likes it. If she doesn't like something she'll give you reasons why. Philip use to shove it in and swallow fast. He's been trying more things in the past year though he still says that he doesn't like some things he has never tried.

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Registered: 06-29-2001
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 5:19pm

I'm not sure why this is such a huge issue.

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Registered: 10-09-2008
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 5:33pm

Thank you ladies for taking the time to reply.

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Registered: 09-26-2007
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 12:27pm
I would still say that even if he likes the taste I would not serve it if he has trouble eating it. I haven't ever researched the link between red meat and colon cancer but I think your ex is well within his rights not to serve steak regardless of the reasons. My nine year old eats no red meat, pork, seafood, etc. We do eat chicken on occasion, or a turkeydog. My ex didn't really give me any grief about it, and he actually stopped giving my son red meat too, to avoid tummy issues. Whether he agreed with it or not we just came to a solution that works for our son. If the texture is difficult for your child then I would just make any of the many other things he likes and leave the steak out for now.
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Registered: 06-29-2001
Fri, 07-03-2009 - 5:36pm

I've got to agree with Reillysmom. I still don't understand why it's such a big deal.

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