I love my age BUT....

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Registered: 09-19-2002
I love my age BUT....
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Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:50am
I am 45 and proud of it. My 8 yr old daughter tells almost everyone we meet how old me and my husband are and keeps repeating it until she gets a response from anyone. I just usually say, you are correct or just ignore it so that we don't make a big deal out of it. You can tell, though, that some adults are embarrassed or surprised about hearing it. I thought it would eventually fizzle away but she quite enjoys it and has been doing it now for almost two yrs. I love my age, but it's my place to tell. I even let her tell people how old she is so she doesn't think I tell her age and she tells mine. I would tell her to stop but don't want her to think I am embarrassed about my age or thinking she is defying me (don't think she will defy me like that but kids will be kids). Anyone else in this situation? Any suggestions? Thanks!
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Registered: 09-30-2011
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 4:25pm

<< I love my age, but it's my place to tell.>>

I think you hit the nail on the head- this is what you should tell your daughter when explaining why you don't want her to tell everyone your age. You could say that age is one of those things that's personal to people and while you're not embarrassed or bothered by your age, other people are (about their age, not yours, lol) which is why it's considered personal. Income/salary is something else that you could use as an example of a type of information that is "yours only to tell"

Good luck!! Both my kids are blabber-mouths so I can relate!

Lisa

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Registered: 03-22-2007
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 5:32pm
I would totally ask her to knock it off! Its not just awkward for you, but the people she's talking to are probably pretty uncomfortable. You could relate it that there lots of information that is just impolite to share with others, like weight, income, etc. I'm surprised she's kept it up for this long!

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Registered: 09-19-2002
Thu, 03-15-2012 - 8:49pm

Ok, I hear ya both.

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Fri, 03-16-2012 - 1:38pm

Hmmm...that's a good question..I'm leaning towards going ahead and talking about it now. Like you said, you'll be more prepared to give the whole spiel as to why you don't want her to mention it anymore. Then, if she does it again, the discussion that happens afterwards can serve as a reinforcement/reminder.

Good luck!

Lisa

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Fri, 03-23-2012 - 4:35pm

I thought of you this past weekend! We were at a Young Authors celebration at my son's school and were listening to different children read stories or poems they had written. One girl comes up to read a story called "My Family". The very first line of the story was " My Dad is 45 years old."

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Sun, 03-25-2012 - 7:21am
cmlisab, that is too funny.

I did have a talk with her and told her that only the immediate family (her sister, me, her father and her) should know and discuss our ages. I said if someone wants to know her age, I'll let her answer that question herself. If someone wants to know mine, I'll answer that myself as well, and so on. Everyone answers for themself.

Well she looked so sad like I had just told her she couldn't have her favorite treat or something, but she said she ok mommy and gave me a hug. I don't get why it's so important to her to to blab it out but hopefully this helps. We are going to a birthday party today....what a great time to see if she remembers.