Is it appropriate to "drop and leave" at a birthday party?

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Registered: 09-19-2002
Is it appropriate to "drop and leave" at a birthday party?
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Sun, 03-25-2012 - 7:33am

Have a birthday party to take my daughter to.

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Registered: 09-30-2011

Good question since this seems to be one of those "middle ground" kind of ages. Up to around age 6 or so, I always assumed I would need to stay but with my oldest who is 12, he would be royally irked if I stayed, LOL.

I think you made the right decision by texting the mom just to make sure it was okay to leave. I always try to tell the parents when they are dropping off their kids that it's okay if they want to leave and run a few errands while the party is going on.

Lisa

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Registered: 03-22-2007
I'm glad you were able to drop her off, and that she's having a good time :). I always see what my comfort level is with the parents on whether I stay or not. She is getting to an easier age to leave at a party, its nice when they get older! Since the party was last minute, I doubt she had tons of kids over anyways.

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Registered: 09-19-2002
WHEW. thanks for the advice. I sent her a text and she said the same thing....she didn't expect us to stay. She was even willing to come pick her up and drop her off. Of course I dropped her off and will go back to get her. And I just checked in on her and she is having a ball. (party didn't really start until 3:30pm so she had time to just hand around which she loved).

I will have to remember that from now on...I guess the older they get the easier it is to drop them off provided it is ok with the hostess and I am comfortable enough with the parents.
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Registered: 12-06-1999

For what it is worth (my kids are older) but by the time they were nine I had no expectation that parents would stay for a birthday party.