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|Wed, 11-19-2008 - 4:28pm|
My 9 yo DD lies constantly. She will lie about the small things (washing her hair in the shower) and the very large things (saying that a friend gave her a shirt when she really took it from lost and found). I don't know what to do about it. We started just talking to her about why lying is wrong and how people won't trust her or believe her. That didn't work. It seemed like she didn't care if anyone trusted her. We currently have a point system and she loses points for lying. It doesn't seem to help much. DH said we should just back off and ignore the lies, but that doesn't seem like the answer to me. I know that kids will lie on occasion to try and stay out of trouble, but it seems excessive. She lies even when the truth is better, even when she wouldn't have gotten in trouble to begin with. She lies even though she knows without doubt she will get caught. (She'll tell me that she wrote in her planner, when she really didn't, knowing I'm about to open in and check.)
what do you do about lying? Do you just ignore the little lies? Do you ignore all lies? Lying is a huge pet peeve of mine, I can't stand people that lie...so it's hard to just act like it's not happening.
Thanks in advance!