Need advice on relocation

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-21-2009
Need advice on relocation
Wed, 01-21-2009 - 10:12pm

Hello everyone,
New to Ivillage.
I am in need of advice.
Hubby and I want to relocate for better weather and cheaper cost of living. We have a 9 soon to be 10 yr old boy.
When I mention the desire to move, son tells us he doesn't want to move. This is normal I suppose. He has a good group of friends. We have no kids on the block, we live on a private road, sort of secluded. Some of my friends say that he will get over it, and some tell me I have passed the window of opportunity for a move, that past second grade it is not a good idea.

We are in upstate NY now in a decent school district, but I have been researching some areas in the south that seem to have schools that offer more than what we have, and for a lot less overall cost of living. I also would like a neighborhood with kids on the block in a community setting, which doesn't exist here.
We can relocate job wise with ease.

What should we do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 01-23-2009 - 10:40am

Welcome to iVillage! We're glad you found us!

Personally, I wouldn't let your son determine what the whole family does. Granted, it's nice to have everyone's input, but this is really a decision for the parents, in my opinion. Moving can be tough on children. We moved twice when I was a kid. Once when I was 7 and again when I was 12. The move at 12 was hard - I was in 7th grade and didn't want to leave my friends, my school, etc. I did end up making friends, of course, and everything worked out fine. My parents didn't have any choice in the matter as my dad was transfered for work each time, but it always worked out. Sounds to me like you are making a decision that will benefit the family in the long run, and your son will adjust.

Good luck!

Poppies Sig
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-27-2009 - 1:43am
Moving can be tough but it also can be a wonderful adventure/experience. My father was in the military and we moved a lot when I was younger. I was able to make friends every place we moved. It was easier to adjust if the move was made over the summer or a school break, so keep that in mind if you have some control over your move date.