O.M.G.....

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Thu, 03-26-2009 - 12:06pm

are other 8 year olds are developing already? I'm looking at my oldest daughter this week and there they are... staring me in the face... getting the breast buds. I mean, perhaps I've been putting my head in the sand. But I do know that kids have been developing earlier these days. I honestly thought that meant 10 or 11 to start having buds and stuff like that. Plus Trinity isn't a full figured girl you know, she's pretty slim.

Goodness sakes, I've got twin girls that are only a year behind her. I'm not ready to start all this yet ya know!

Ok, done with rant there. Just a little shocked is all.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Thu, 03-26-2009 - 1:51pm

I am the mother to a 9 year old that is also growing up faster then I want her to. This Christmas we bought her training bras because whether I like it or not she is developing into a pre-teen body. I also bought her the body book for girls. It isn't so detailed that I have to worry about her popping out with sex questions. It does help with some of the difficult topics soon to come. I think I started getting breast buds in third grade. I didn't have a trainer or bra for that matter until I was in 6th grade.


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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Thu, 03-26-2009 - 7:11pm

No, you are not crazy, my daughter turned 9 in September and she already has a figure, breasts, and getting hair in her privates. I was beyond shocked when I saw her recently. I went into the bathroom and I knew she had developed breasts but now they were breasts with actual nipples developing--little peaks and all! I just felt like crying and turning back time so she can be a baby again and time slows down! I totally sympathize with you.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 7:28am
My girls didn't develop that early, but I do distinctly remember that when they were in third grade, there was always one kid in their class that was visibly developing.
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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Fri, 03-27-2009 - 7:49am

8 is a little early but not unheard of.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 8:09am

Mabey I was putting my head in the sand on this one but I thought for a long time that the early development was due to more children being heavier than normal, and that since my kids were slender in size I wasn't going to have to deal with those problems yet.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Sat, 03-28-2009 - 8:21am

With my kids, I don't do a talk, it is an ongoing dialogue.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Sun, 03-29-2009 - 8:49pm

Everyone is different, but I don't think an 8 or 9 year old, or even 10/11 for that matter, needs to know about sex.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Mon, 03-30-2009 - 7:36pm

I started wearing a bra at 9 and started my period right around the time I turned 10. My godmother started when she was 8 and thought she was dying because she had no clue what was happening to her. Because of her my mother gave me the information about puberty when I was 8. In fact all of my godmother's nieces and the daughters of her close friends all got the information at age 8. Some of us started early and armed with the information we didn't freak out, a few didn't start till much older (think 15).

As far as your other questions, it's an ongoing conversation at our house. My 9 year old is a boy but he was asking questions about where babies come from and what is involved this past summer. I answered his questions and then referred him to a book that we have called "It's So Amazing". I let him read it, look through it and come to me with any questions. The book then went back up high because I don't want his friends getting a hold of it. His questions were detailed and numerous but at the end he asked me "how did we end up talking about babies and sex?" lol.

Do I feel it is young to have this conversation? I would like to say yes but after reading way too many stories in the papers about 12 year olds getting pregnant I don't think it is. You need to lay the ground work so that they feel they can come to you to talk about things they hear from other kids and hear things they will. I think you can have this conversation be age appropriate and support your family values.

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Wed, 04-15-2009 - 11:27pm
My girls have been wearing those little training bras that look a lot like an under shirt just more bra like since the beginning of the school year.

 

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In reply to: twinmommyplus2
Mon, 04-20-2009 - 1:00pm
Chelle, I love your signature.

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