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|Wed, 07-02-2008 - 8:29pm|
Hi - we have a bright, athletic, energetic 8 yr old girl - she has an older sister who is 13 - they get along fine even though the 13 yr old has definitely turned the teenage corner and is now much more interested in fashion and clothes and such. But here's my dilemma - my 8 yr old has always had friends and still does - her two best friends are ones from her pre-school days but they now all go to different schools but still see each other a lot on weekends and with play dates - but this school year that just ended (2nd Grade) she never really "clicked" with anyone - now she truly herself did not seem that upset about it - she still got invited to most b'day parties and a few sleepovers - but my wife has become VERY worried about all this and is insisting that our daughter must have some kind of physical nerve problem where she can't "read" the other kids and her social skills are lacking and she needs occupational therapy immediately. Now this troubles me - because this one classroom was the first time it happened - even her teacher told us that the popular cliche was a bunch of Queen B's who even devoured their own throughout the year so who cares if she didn't "fit in" with these mini-evil queens? She plays girls basketball and is one of the stars of her team, her grades were all A;s - she reads two levels above her grade - I just feel that my wife is overreacting and evey kid might have a rough patch with friends and socializing. I do talk to her about her energy - she can be a bit "on" at times but nothing ADD like (in fact she was tested for it in pre-school and doesnt have it). I just don't think we should focus on it in the sense of "you didn't make school friends this year so lets make sure you do NEXT year." I feel this draws a red circle around the whole thing and then the poor kid feels this unsaid pressure - man, I better make a good friend at school asap! I'm not putting my head in the sand at all - I feel this is part of parenting - you help them, talk to them, guide them - let them know that everyone goes through times like this but as I said, it's not like she's lonely or shy or doing poorly with school work. Sorry to ramble but advise would be appreciated. Anyone else go through times like this with their girls?