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|Sun, 08-17-2008 - 1:59pm|
Theres something seriously wrong with my family. I really feel as though its so disfunctional its beyond repair. I have posted on here with regards to near on every member of my closest family members.
So here Goes, and I am sorry if it seems like I am rambling. I am just gonna type how it is coming out in my head.
My middle son is 8 years old. And up until near on a year ago was always very pleasant, and gentle. Hes always been picked on by my older son, and that is in another thread somewhere on here. And I was on the ball with the punishments as regards to that matter(as much as I could be) More recently his behavour has gotton really really bad. I see it as some kind of rebellion to being picked on, I really do. And my eldest son has played with his mind a bit to be honest. My 8 year old is screaming and crying at the silliest things, and its getting to the point of total distraction for everyone in this house. And the neighbours I should think as well. I have decided that the best way forward is not to raise my voice at my kids unless it is really needed. So at the end of the day its them that are looking silly, and rude whilst shouting at me, and I am keeping my calm.
I have come on here to type this to get away from his terrible temper. I went to do baby his bedtime milk, and made sure I did my son his as well. And told him to please go to bed, he was obviously tired and needed an early night. He was screaming at me at his highest possible screamy voice. I was standing there just warning him not to shout at me, as I wasnt shouting at him. All I had asked was that he kindly go to his room after getting his milk. He said he hates this family and that he wants to kill himself. And that his older brother always gets away with stuff. Yet my eldest says the same thing when I tell him off as well. I feel as though i am on a losing battle with him especially. I am seeking help for my eldests outbursts, so I am thinking maybe he needs help as well. I am worried that my neighbours will take it upon themselfs to call social services. Neither side talk to us as it is(for no apparent reason)so this is a worrying issue for me.
He used to be sooo loving and gentle with me. It hurts me so much when hes screaming at me for no reason.