Sad commentary....

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sad commentary....
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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 11:58am
A short while ago, my 8 year old ds told me that a boy at school told him that he had gotten drunk on the weekend. We do not drink, and talk to our kids often about why we don't think drinking is a good idea, so my son was quite concerned for the boy. I talked to his teacher this week, I thought she should be aware of this, although I do think it was probably a story he told to be "cool".

The sad thing was I couldn't remember the boy's name and the teacher had no trouble coming up with half a dozen names of boys she would suspect of drinking! When I recalled the boy, she said it was quite likely he had seen it often enough to think that would be a cool thing to impress someone with because he has a pretty rough home life. I just think that is sad that in grade 3 , she can think of so many likely drinkers(in a class of only 15).
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Registered: 04-12-2003
Fri, 04-18-2003 - 1:07am
I can definately identify with that. My son was in grade 3 last year and he came home one day to tell my that a friend of his was smoking joints after school. After picking up my jaw off the floor, I had a talk with my son. He was very unsure of what his friend was talking about , which is why he told me. I explained to him what I felt he needed to know and the next morning called the principal. (Knowing the child and his family my son was speaking of, I knew the childs mother would laugh it off). The principal was not surprised to hear of which child was talking like this. What I don't agree with though is that they pulled both my son and child in question out of class to talk to them. The child told the principal that he was joking and it was just grass he picked from the field and put in a rolling paper. The principal centered out my son for "ratting" on the other child and put my son in a very uneasy position. The principal did check the childs locker(and gladly didn't find anything) and called me back to let me know what had happened. I expressed my feelings of pulling my son out of class to confront his friend like that, but it was basically blown off as oh well. I know this childs home life and it is probably not very fair to judge him for it. But being that this is how he is raised, knowing about joints and marijuana and rolling it among other things . I did not let my son play with him any longer after that . Luckily we have moved and my son is in grade 4 this year at another school. The temptation of being his friend in secret is not there. I do know all of his friends and make it a point to meet each parent. Just trying to keep informed on who my son is spending his free time with and trying to help him make the right decisions.


Vikki :)