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Registered: 08-16-2007
Tue, 02-03-2009 - 7:46pm

It is Tuesday, but I swear it feels like a Monday.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
In reply to: andiegirl76
Fri, 02-06-2009 - 1:15pm

Andie, I am so sorry I am responding almost three days later. I didn't see your post earlier.

This is a tough situation to deal with. Sometimes having to enforce the punishment is hard on us as well.

Would talking to a police officer about what could happen to her if she continues to take things that don't belong to her? Would having her talking to your religious leader help her see that we make the choice to listen to those who tempt us to do something wrong? And that choosing to do something wrong means you pay the consequence.

I tell my kids that they need to think about what they are doing because it isn't a matter of if I find out but when I do. I've made it a point to let them both see me asking their teachers how they were at school. I've asked their teachers about how they did that day when they weren't around and then have asked about something that happened that day. I've told them good things that other parents have said about them when they have been away from me. It has re-enforced to them that people do tell me things and I know what they are doing when they are not around me. It has helped Philip stay out of trouble because he'll speak up and say that I wouldn't be happy if he did this or that with his friends; sometimes that stops them too. The few times it hasn't his good friends have made a comment along the lines of Philip was smart to not do this and I should have listened. I just hope it continues to work as he gets older and is exposed to more opportunities to do things when adults are not right there all the time.