talking to your kids about violence
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|Fri, 02-01-2013 - 12:50pm|
A man was shot and killed down the street from our house this week. This comes after increasing crime and violence that seems to be creeping in from the bigger city. Its been building for maybe about a year. Its sad because while I didn't grow up here, I did have friends who did and this is not the city I knew as a kid. When we bought the house the difference between our home town and this town was lot sizes. You got more land. The other main difference was closes of public transit which many are now blaming for the downturn. I was a criminal justice major, I get poor economy = desperate people = more crime. Especially kids, if kids have no sense of a future whats going to keep them from making the easy buck. Adults have hard enough time finding work which limits high school kids options. The city opened a teen center in hopes to at least giving kids a place to go and some guidence and at very least keeping good kids from bad.
The man who was killed was a local business man, he was my age had a family but he was also what may have been his down fall. He wanted to work with kids. He was a former marine who had a skate shop, most of his clients were teens and young adults and he was always there for them. Not alot is know about why yet, I fear he may have crossed someone because the facts don't add up to robbery but the bottom line is crime has increased. We have been broken into twice in last 3 years. The convence store next door to where the shooting took place has been held up, there were 2 armed robberis in the days leading up this at local gas stations and unconfirmed reports of a shooting at the end of rush hour at the local train stop.
Its scary as a mom. I wasn't going to tell the boys what happened but we had to drive RIGHT past it all and there were news trucks and well MIL didn't get my suttle hints. What worried me more was my oldest wasn't scared. I immediately worry is he desenstized??? Not that I want to scare him. then I worry about the future. He is at the age he will start to crave indenepence but this happened 5 min from my house at 1pm!! we were in parking lot of the convience store that exact time the day before!! Will I ever feel ok with him not being with me. I a NOT a helicopter parent, I want him to be able to be independant but this scares the CRAP out of me!!
How do we prepare them for this world we live in today?!?!?