tantrums?

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Registered: 05-06-2008
tantrums?
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Fri, 07-25-2008 - 10:00pm
My daughter will be 8 in a few weeks. We have been dealing with tantrums from her since she was 11 months. I don't understand what sets her off. Most days it is anything and everything. Something as simple as "can we go swimming?" and my reply is "not right now, it's not quite hot enough out so we need to wait for it to get hotter" and she goes off "I WANT TO GO SWIMMING NOW! IT'S NOT FAIR! I HATE LIVING HERE!" Then she'll go into her room, slam the door, throw things, scream etc..... It's to the point where I can't stand being around her anymore. I am trying to get her into my son's dr (he has ADHD) just to see what they say. My son doesn't act like this at all so I can't imagine what it could be. I've done time outs, redirecting, taking away priveledges, etc...nothing gets it in her head. We have left stores when she acts like this, nothing works. It makes her mad but then she does it again the next time. thanks.
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In reply to: momto3monkeys03
Wed, 07-30-2008 - 10:25am

I think that taking her to the doctor and getting a behavioral evaluation.

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In reply to: momto3monkeys03
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 3:21pm

WHen she acts up, she goes to time out, sitting in the hall in front of the closet, loses priveleges etc. Nothing makes a difference to her.

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Registered: 06-15-2007
In reply to: momto3monkeys03
Sun, 08-03-2008 - 9:19am

An idea from the book "The Explosive Child" which I have done: Take one week and keep a log of every tantrum--what was happening beforehand, what triggered it. This was a real eye-opener for me. Turned out most of the tantrums were entirely predictable, triggered by the same kinds of things over and over again; if you know that your child is always set off by transitions, for example, you work with him/her by giving lots of notice and slowly walking her through the transition...

Two websites I always suggest to people who have kids with anger management problems:
http://www.thinkkids.org/ (click on "parents" link)
and
http://www.explosivekids.org/cgi-bin/dcforum/dcboard.cgi (message board for Foundation for Children with Behavioral Challenges)