Transgender Child Banned From Girls Bathroom

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Registered: 03-22-2007
Transgender Child Banned From Girls Bathroom
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Wed, 02-27-2013 - 4:42pm

I think the following story from USA Today raises some tough questions as a parent, a transgender child was banned from using the girls restroom at his elementary school.  He identifies with being a girl, wears girl clothes and up until recently, was accepted by the school (I'm using the pronoun "he, his" just to explain the story more clearly).

Here is the link if you would like to watch the video of their story: http://www.usatoday.com/videos/news/nation/2013/02/27/1951661/

My heart does go out to the parents and this child, it's a very difficult situation to find yourselves in; I applaud them for sticking up for their child and accepting her fully.  I'm guessing that the school suddenly changed their policy as a result of a parent complaint. 

So two questions:

As a parent, how would you feel if a male transgender child was using your daughter's restroom at school?

As a parent, how would you feel if a female transgender child was using your son's restroom at school?

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Registered: 03-22-2007
Wed, 02-27-2013 - 4:46pm

After pondering the scenarios, I would be fine with either as long as some discretion was used, such as using bathroom stalls with doors.  These are young children, and this is a good way to get them to accept the child without any prejudices.  Maybe with a little support and friendship, this child will grow up feeling safe and secure at her school. 

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Thu, 02-28-2013 - 7:10am

thats a tough one and I actually fear more for that child then mine in the bathroom. Definately closed doors but what happens when they face the bully in the bathroom. Think for the child's safety seperate bathroom time. I am in the camp this is a biological thing (aka not catchy) so I wouldn't fear my kid being around a transgender and I would explain that to my child in age appropriate terms. Now boys are freer in bathrooms then girls. I mean I don't remember EVER sharing a stall with another girl. YOu go in groups but you go next to one another but boys tend to discuss bodily functions more then girls so I think the issue of transgender female using a boys room is higher concern but again more for that child then mine.

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Registered: 09-30-2011
Fri, 03-08-2013 - 11:28am

I agree with both of you- I would also be totally fine with it. I love what Heidi said about it not being "catchy". That frustrates me to no end when people believe that being gay and/or transgender is somehow "contagious". UGH.

Lisa 

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Registered: 01-24-2012
Fri, 03-15-2013 - 11:33am

Honestly, it would seem a little weird at first...but I could get over it. Definitely wouldn't speak up about it.