when to have THE talk?

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Registered: 05-13-2009
when to have THE talk?
Wed, 05-13-2009 - 10:25pm

Hi, I'm new here and have two daughters.

wife to Scott
mom to Kat and Chey
step mom to Alex
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-14-2009 - 7:04am

You can start with American Girl's

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Tue, 05-19-2009 - 4:31pm

Hi Jen,

I dont believe in "the talk" and have not done that with my kids.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-20-2009 - 8:11pm

Add me to the group that believes it is an ongoing discussion with answers to questions being age appropriate.

What grade is your 9 year old in? In our school district the 4th grade girls are taught about puberty and the changes. there is a video and parents get to preview it about 6 weeks before the lesson is taught. 5th grade boys and girls have the same lesson plan but separately about a week later.

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Registered: 05-05-2007
Mon, 05-25-2009 - 5:24am
I really think it has a lot to do with the kid. DS is 8 and he's not quite there yet. I've tried to talk to him about things and he gets all grossed out and silly about it. I don't really understand it. I have an open door to any of his questions, he's just not ready to listen to me yet. A book called- "What's Happening to my Body" was recommended to me. The suggested age is 9-12. They have these for girls and boys. I was told it would be a good thing for him-to read it and know it's really what's going on instead of hearing it from me and him not believing that is really how things are. :)
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Tue, 05-26-2009 - 2:42pm
hello!! they grow up so fast dont they? i have an 8 year old who's almost 9 and my "baby" is 5. both girls. i had the sex-where-babies-come-from talk with my odd last summer. i think she knew a lil because when i paused for words to describe the actual act she filled in "the hot dog goes in the hamburger bun??" that was perfect-lol-so i think she knew a lil. the puberty/period talk just happened 2 weeks ago. it was not easy. i just named all the parts-the right names, too, i didnt sugarcoat-and basically gave her a rundown of what to expect. shes already developing breasts and then about a week ago, i also discovered some hair. so i think shes going to be having the joys of puberty quite soon. i dont know about books-i just talked from my experience. but you just basically have to just do it. if you struggle for words thats okay. take care!!!
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Registered: 05-12-2008
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 1:03pm
Does she still believe in Santa? I also figure I would not talk about the birds and the bees while she still thinks a bearded old man comes down the chimney to deliver presents.