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|Thu, 12-11-2008 - 9:51am|
I have posted a couple times recently about my 8- soon to be 9-year old daughter. Her behavior is getting worse and worse (or at least I think so). There are constant battles over eveything. I try very hard not to engage but I am sick to death of all of her tears and tantrums. I know she doesn't behave this way at school.
The latest is her birthday party. It is now only two days away and I haven't sent out invitations or called paretns because she wants a sleepover which is fine. A couple days ago she started talking about having kids come in the morning, stayy all day and then all night. I said absolutely not. My husband wanted to compromise with her which she would not hear of. She keeps trying to negotiate a time by half hour intervals with crying fits in between. I have no idea what is going on but I am standing firm. I told her the choices were having her friends come at 2 or 5 or not at all. I told her that a party is a privledge and we don't have to have a party at all. This goes on about everything. After reading this board I have been trying set firm limits and boundaries with consequences. My husband is not completely on the same page. He tends to ignore her bad behavior (leaving me to deal with it) or blow up.
Since this has been ongoing for years -- we had a little respite about a year ago -- and she used to have horrid tantrums when she was younger, I am wondering at what point do we see a therapist? My guess is she has a lot of anxiety and control isses. But it is wrecking the peace of our house. help.