7 y/o daughter doesn't sleep

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Registered: 11-22-2005
7 y/o daughter doesn't sleep
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Tue, 11-22-2005 - 7:14pm
My daughter is 7 and grew up sleeping in my bed. After many (I mean MANY) failed attempts at trying to get her to sleep in her own bed at night, I am frustrated. Currently, she tries to sleep in her own bed in the same room with her sister, but it is a hassle every single night just to get her to go to bed. After she finally goes to bed, she keeps her sister up by talking for the next hour. Then, into the night, she wakes up about 6 times to either tap me on the shoulder and tell me she has had a bad dream or to go to the bathroom, or to talk about some insignificant topic. When she was younger and slept with me, she would have night terrors. I want her to be a big girl and sleep by herself, but I can't handle the constant interruptions at night or the child that cries all night because she doesn't want to go to bed. She is extremely strong willed and will cry until she throws up. HELP!! Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can help ease her into sleeping by herself?
Thank you,
Tara
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Tue, 11-22-2005 - 7:36pm

I have had this same problem.

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Fri, 11-25-2005 - 2:56am

I agree with the previous poster that you should stay firm. And I suspect that you'll be disappointed if you're trying to 'ease' her into it - because her personality sounds way too strong for being eased. I think that you have to make a set of firm rules - and rules that are not to be broken.

First of all, when she keeps her sister awake, make sure there is negative consequence for her behaviour. Loss of a favourite toy would be a good start. Every night that she keeps her sister awake, she looses another toy. The toys can be returned one at a time - one for each night of not keeping her sister awake.

I would also suggest that when she gets up to you in the night, keep your conversation to essential minimums. If she needs to go to the toilet remind her that she's a big girl and doesn't need to wake you for it. Don't get out of bed and don't engage in any further conversation. If she's getting up just to talk - refuse to talk to her and tell her to go straight back to bed. Nightmares are a little different - but perhaps you can give her a strategy such as holding a favourite toy for comfort.

I know it sounds mean, but while ever her 'getting out of bed' strategies have an effect, she will continue to do it.

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Mon, 11-28-2005 - 2:05pm

Thank you for your reply. Last night, she kept her sister up and I have now threated to move her sister into her own room if she persists. You are right, her personality is very headstrong and I am trying to be as firm as I can without getting her to the point of tears and vomiting!! :) aaagghhh!! We'll see how tonite goes!

Thanks again,
Tara